Part of the fun of connecting with someone on a dating service is discovering shared interests. From hobbies to favourite cuisine, common ground is always the perfect ice-breaker when it comes to your online chat, and the more you explore these topics, the greater the rapport that will develop. As your bond develops, you might find yourself attracted to books about love and relationships. For a couple, what could be more topical? Relationship consultants from cupid conducted an internal poll among their users and based on results of it here are five of the most recommended books about this subject.
Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, by John Gray:
According to some reports, the bestselling non-fiction book of the 1990s, this should be given pride of place in your bookshelf. The metaphor Gray uses in his book about relationships is that men and women need to be understood as if their points of view are so disparate, they might as well originate in different planets. He argues that the psychological contrasts between the sexes are absolute, and these will determine how individuals react to certain situations, rather than anything more objective. For instance, he writes that men are keen on problem-solving, whereas their female counterparts find it far more exciting to chat and debate about them!
He’s Just Not That Into You, by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo:
This popular self-improvement book was later transformed into a successful film starring Jennifer Aniston, Ben Affleck, and Drew Barrymore. The inspiration for this title came from an episode of the hit TV series about women and their emotional lives, ‘Sex and The City.’ The central theme concerns post-date behavior. While men can often display extreme levels of interest before a date, especially when it culminates in sex, their reaction can transform into something far more lukewarm in the aftermath. Aimed specifically at women, the book questions whether some men are really all that worth pursuing if they are giving off certain negative vibes.
The Sex-Starved Marriage, by Michele Weiner Davis:
To those enjoying a passionate relationship where the intensity of their feelings are frequently demonstrated in the bedroom, the prospect of celibacy within a marriage appears rather nonsensical. Yet there are several reasons why physical closeness can become an issue, either with one or both parties involved. Davis’ study attempts to untangle this conundrum, outlining that while sex is undoubtedly important, it is only one aspect of what goes towards establishing a bond. She is equally adamant about championing what it means to feel wanted and loved within a relationship.
Difficult Conversations, by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen:
We’ve all been there. There’s a certain subject we need to broach, with a partner, someone at work, a client, a family member, or many others, but the nature of this leaves our pulse rate quickening as we find ourselves overwhelmed by anxiety and a reluctance to engage. The authors give copious examples of these difficult conversation topics, introducing a calm, measured, step-by-step approach towards how to achieve a successful conclusion. This would be worthwhile reading if either of you is fearful of confrontation.
Mindful Relationship Habits, by S. J. Scott and Barrie Davenport:
We can all be guilty of falling into routines and taking our other half for granted in a relationship. The authors here give 25 examples of these anti-social practices, with suggestions about different ways to approach these that will result in a far more favorable outcome. This would be an excellent choice for your reading list because it is all about providing a framework that will help your relationship and love to prosper.