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CHAPTER
3EMOTIONALSUCK!THE NEURO-SOCIO THEORY
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3.Emotional suck!
(The neuro-socio theory)
V: “I think you understand the definition and principle of our father’s - I mean control ers?”
Z: “yes! relatability and what's next now?”
V: “Now, let’s talk about the brain and emotional theory of control ers and what is going on in their minds?”
Z: “Are you asked them,😂
V: “shhhh! Just listen, not ful but majority”.
“The honest biases that the author experienced in the interpretation of people's emotions, which al ows him
Emotional manipulation is used by people who want to gain power or control over you
deploy tactics that are both deceptive and not founded. These people want to change
The way you think and you include without you never doing what they do.
In other words,
They use techniques to change your perception and make you believe that you
Make your free wil . The emotional manipulation of is concrete '
Because it works without you realizing it. A person who is good in Using these tips, you can make their orders without your knowledge Make you a "psychological prisoner ".
When skil ed manipulators pay attention to you, they can make you give them power
Your emotional health and even your self-worth. They wil charm you effortlessly
You even realize it. They wil gain your trust and you wil begin to appreciate what they do.
I miss you. Once you let them into your life, they wil begin to consume your life. Express your identity methodical y and over time you wil lose your self-esteem and focus.
Be what they expect of you.
Emotional manipulation is more common than you might think. Since it is subtle,
People are rarely aware of what is happening to them and in some cases they do not even notice it. Only a careful outside observer can recognize when this type of manipulation
is present.
You probably know someone who was cheerful and fun, and then they seemed and
others become completely different after a few years have personality. If it’s an old friend, you may not even recognize the person she has become. This This shows how powerful the author’s ability to manipulate emotions is. It can be completely repaired by a personality without them even realizing it.
The manipulator wil tear you apart little by little and you wil accept smal changes that go unnoticed until the old you is replaced by another version of you, designed to be subservient to the manipulator. Emotional manipulation is like a slow coup d’état. it forces you to make smal , incremental concessions to the people who are trying to manipulate you. In other words:
You give up your identity to conform to the manipulation so that it doesn't The recording in your head plays a role. If the manipulator pushes you to change in smal ways, you wil fol ow. You wil not worry. Begin to admit your weaknesses to the manipulator. It wil feel easier to do so Make concessions and your personality wil be erased and replaced in a cumulative progression. Emotional manipulation by the author occurs to some degree in al social dynamics. Let's see how this manifests in romantic relationships, friendships, and work”
V: “ So let's move into another topic based on this”.
Z:“Youthinkourfather’sreadanalternativenexttoitandtransform?”
haha just kidding.
V: “no way gurl! Ahmmmmm! Let's get into point.
“There is a lot of emotional manipulation in relationships, and it's not always malicious. For example, women wil try to change men's behavior to make them "cleaner," which is completely normal. However, in some manipulative situations, the person's intentions are malicious and they are motivated by the need to control or dominate others. Positive reinforcement is perhaps the most commonly used hidden manipulation technique in romantic relationships. Your partner can get you to do what they want by giving you compliments, flattery, attention, gifts, and affection. Some sophisticated manipulators use what psychologists cal "intermittent positive reinforcement" to control their partners. The
principle is this: the abuser gives the victim intense positive reinforcement for a period of time and then switches back to a normal level of attention and appreciation. After a random interval, he switched back to strong positive reinforcement. When the victim gets used to the special treatment, he removes it. When the victim gets used to normal treatment, the special treatment is restored, and it al seems arbitrary. The victim then becomes somewhat "addicted" to the special treatment, but one thing he does brings back strong positive reinforcement. In other words, she's actual y good at it the perpetrator. She doesn't know how to get it, so she starts doing whatever the perpetrator wants. Negative reinforcement techniques are also used in relation to manipulating others hidden. For example, partners can withhold intimation as a way of forcing the other person to change their behavior in a particular way. People also use methods such as silent therapy, Withholding love and affection. Some abusive people wil pretend to open up to you, creating a false sense of closeness. They may share personal stories and talk about their hopes and fears. When they do this, They give the impression that they trust you, but their goal may be to make you feel obligated to them.
Manipulators also use calculated hints to get you to react in the moment in order to change your behavior in the long term. Such hints can be made with words or even actions. In everyday speech, we cal this "hinting." People in relationships are always trying to figure out what the other person wants from the relationship. That's why control ing people can implicitly let you do whatever they want without taking responsibility for your actions, because they can always claim that you misunderstood their intentions.
However, malicious innuendos can be very hurtful and damaging to your
Self-esteem. Your partner may suggest that you've gained weight, that you don't make enough money, or even that your cooking skil s are poor. People use innuendos to get rid of "narrative," saying al kinds of painful things that can affect your trust.
Z: 'Are you serious about it?’
V: “yes, it's a part of research and it's a fact too!”
Z:“ 😀 ”
V: “Let's move onto another topic, first of al “You have friends?”
Z: “you don’t know what i have?”
V: “uhmm! Okay I got it”.
“Emotional manipulation by the writer is common in friendships and casual relationships. Friendships tend to develop more slowly than romantic relationships, but that just means it takes You have more time to figure out if your friend is manipulative. Manipulating friendships can It's confusing because even wel -meaning friends can be perceived as malicious.
This is because Even among the closest of friends, there is a certain social competition that explains
The Idea of "Friend and Foe"
Certain individuals may try to manipulate you into prioritizing common friends instead of pursuing what they want directly. Passive aggression serves as a manipulative tactic that undermines your ability to resolve issues your friends present to you. For instance, if a friend wishes for a favor, she might not ask you directly and instead approach a mutual friend to suggest that they ask on her behalf. This creates a situation where it becomes chal enging to decline the request, as it heightens social pressure. Saying "no" may lead your entire circle to perceive you as selfish.
Passive aggression can also manifest through the silent treatment, compel ing you to comply with demands. Imagine a scenario where one of your friends engages with others but excludes you, causing discomfort and prompting curious inquiries about any issues between you two. This can lead others to take sides.
Friends might also employ subtle insults as a way to manipulate you. They may give compliments that carry hidden meanings. If you reflect on these statements, you might recognize them as veiled insults that can diminish your confidence and alter your behavior.
Additional y, some friends may exert control over your social interactions, creating a "power trip." For example, they might insist on having the floor every time you speak, regardless of the setting—whether at their home or in a social context of your choosing. These types of friends often dominate conversations and dictate the dynamics of your interactions.
plan to dominate your friendship and therefore always want to have a greater “home-field advantage” than you. They wil try to push you out of your comfort zone just so you can expose your weaknesses and then build a stronger emotional connection with them. Manipulative friends tend to abuse your friendship and take advantage of it disproportionately. degree.
They wil ask you for a lot of favors without regard for your time or effort.
They are the kind of friends who wil use your friendship whenever they need something, but oh wel making excuses when it was their turn to take revenge”.
Z: “interesting!”.
V: “let’s move onto how control ers impact workplaces?”
Z:“👍”
“There are many reasons why your coworker might want to manipulate you. It could be that you are on the same career path, so he wants to embarrass you. It could be that he's lazy and he wants to keep you responsible. It could also be that he's a sadist and he just wants to see you suffer. People exert pressure to control others at work and then, Almost instant stress relief. For example, let's say you make a smal mistake on a report and your boss cal s you into his office. He raises a fuss and threatens to fire you, but eventual y changes his tune and assures you that your job is safe as long as you do what he wants. This type of manipulation works on people because it scares them while instil ing a sense of responsibility. Some coworkers wil manipulate you into doing you smal
favors and then remind you of them every time they need something from you. For example, if you make a mistake at work and your coworker covers it up for you, they may hold grudges against you for months or even years, making you feel guilty and therefore indebted to them. Coworkers can also manipulate you by shutting you down when you pass on important information. The idea is to trip you up so they can negotiate with the boss or other col eagues. When you find someone who eliminates you and faces -
until with them at work they may pretend to be innocent Pretending to be their true mistake or they can find a way to turn the table Black your responsibility for you. People with dark personality characteristics are usual y competitive at work and wil not hesitate Use insufficient means to get you.
Most coworkers turn out to be good friends, but you should be wary of coworkers who are overly eager to befriend you. They may want to know more about you so they can figure out your strengths and weaknesses and find ways to use them against you. Narcissists, Machiavel ians, and psychopaths are very scheming at work, so don’t let them surprise you”.
Z: “Bhayya! You added philosophy in between but our dad studied the opposite of it?”
V: “Nah! It's an example of how typical alternatives exist!”
V: “Let's dive into another theory which shows how we can be control ed by and what makes them to control us?”
Z:“👍”