Immediately the first issue she and Manny ran into was sex. Manny was not only physically fit, but he had a voracious
sexual appetite for Frannie.
At first that pleased Frannie. But one day, when work at the office grew tough, she started coming home from work very tired and would need sleep. She started to fall asleep more often at night, before they could ever make love.
He couldn’t stand it after a week, and reacted badly, questioning her love. “I give you my whole self! Can you not reciprocate in the same way?”
“Manny, I’m just tired. I love you, OK? We can make love in the morning, or on the weekends.”
“But I WANT you,” he insisted angrily. “This is how I show my love! I want us to have sex all night, every night! It’s how I am. Can’t you at least adapt to that?”
Frannie gave in.
Thereafter, whenever she attempted to refuse sex, Manny would start the same sort of “you don’t love me anymore”
script. It didn’t matter if she cooked his meals, took care of him when he fell ill, listened to him talk about his dreams and thoughts every time he started talking. If she refused whatever he wanted—and not just sex—he would berate her and question her sincerity in the relationship.
Their relationship didn’t last for more than a year.
Frannie finally left him. But what infuriated her was how Manny would explain to their mutual friends that they broke up
because she was “selfish and frigid” in bed. She realized that the man she lived with for a year didn’t really love her—frankly speaking, didn’t even respect her. Manny was someone who had deeper issues, and was using sex as a temporary release.
Don’t make this mistake. Assess the relationship before reaching this point. Check your mind mapping sheet at all times to make sure that your partner matches on all crucial points. Be in choice, and if the relationship changes to a point of not benefiting you, then make a choice, and get out. Remember, sex is very powerful, and beneficial if used in the proper environment. Having a strong sexual connection is crucial to any successful relationship working, if and only if, all other non-negotiable points match. When all other points match, and you have great sexual intimacy between one another the two of you will sore high. Remember to always refer to your mind map and the non-negotiable traits you set for your partner.
Laughter is important.
I mentioned that you need to bring happiness into each other’s life. I don’t mean that you should each induce a permanent, crazy zeal for one another. (That’s fine, but that doesn’t always happen in real life between all couples.) The happiness I mean is the sort that makes both of you feel a peaceful, comfortable lightness of being within, the sort that