Get to know and understand his or her life in detail. Show that you are interested in gaining a thorough understanding of him or her, and are utterly fascinated.
However, respect his or her thoughts and opinions. Respect the space and time he or she might require in daily life. Don’t hound the person like an appendage, by nagging for more time together (whether on the phone or face-to-face)! Don’t try to tell the person what to do in every aspect of his or her life! Don’t crowd!
Be creative in the way you support your beloved. It shows that you’re paying attention.
If he or she says, “I’d like to get more physically fit; my doctor says I ought to be careful with my cholesterol levels,” don’t just say, “Sure.” Offer something of substance. For instance, you can offer to jog with your beloved every day, or be his or her diet buddy.
Or, if he or she says, “I’ve been dreaming of taking a part- time course in , to learn something new and augment my income,” don’t just say, “I support you.” To save your beloved time and energy, you can go to the state university or local college, do the research and get course brochures. “Here,” you can say. “I ‘happened’ to pass by the school, and got you the general info. You can go over them whenever you like. If you’d like me to be with you when you visit the school yourself, let me know. (I’m kind of curious about their courses as well.)”