Remember that playing hard to get is just one of the many ways for you to judge your pursuer’s character. Judge wisely, but try to reach a decision about a person as quickly as you
can. Don’t play hard to get for too long! If you do that, it will reflect badly on you. It will give everyone in your life—and not just your date—the impression that you’re either a wishy-washy decision-maker, or a tease who should never be taken seriously on anything.
Melanie’s Story
Melanie loved the thrill of being courted by a man. “I love the romance of the chase,” she said. “I grew up in West Virginia, and my mother and my grandmother before me were classic Southern belles…so you can say I have Southern charm and romance running in my veins!”
But Melanie takes the “romance” a bit too far sometimes. She once had been seeing two men at the same time, Reese and Malcolm, and couldn’t make up her mind which of them she preferred. (One of them was a U.S. Army Reserve soldier studying for his accounting degree, while the other was a civil engineer.) She was so amazed and thrilled by how attractive each man was that she didn’t stop to think if they had a life and schedule beyond the time they spent chasing her.