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Introduction

Everyone in the business coaching profession agrees that

executive coaching works. However, according to Coaching and

Buying Coaching Services (London: Chartered Institute of

Personnel and Development, 2004), an even greater impact,

more sustainable results and increased effectiveness can be

achieved when a systematic approach to executive coaching is

applied.

Novice coaches wonder if effective, experienced coaches possess

mysterious methods for producing magical results. In fact, the

genuine trust that renders coaching effective is created when

both coach and coachee have a clear understanding of the

coaching process and methodology. We have always believed in

the value of such transparency, and have made it a cornerstone

of our practice. To validate our belief, we conducted research

and monitored our own coaching results.

In order to determine and define what actually happens in

sessions facilitated by an effective coach, we observed and

analyzed transcripts and video tapes from executive coaching

colleagues in the US, England and Germany. We investigated

how the coach achieved results, what specific actions the coach

took to improve executive performance, and what distinguished

an effective, experienced coach from a novice. Our observations,

analysis and study of various coaching models led to our

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development of the seven-step Achieve Coaching Model®, which

has been applied successfully in some of the finest organizations

in the world.

Application of the Achieve Coaching Model®

A brief description of each of the seven steps follows, along with

insights into the skills and techniques employed by an effective

coach at each stage.

Step 1: Assess the current situation

In this step, the executive is encouraged to reflect deeply about

his or her current situation. The enhanced self-awareness

obtained by describing that situation helps in identifying areas

to address, and provides a useful context for the sessions ahead.

However, the most important benefit of this step is the

coachee's opportunity to reflect on past events, enhance

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understanding of what specific actions contributed to the

current situation, and how those actions may have stimulated

specific responses in others.

Key coaching behaviors

 Makes informed use of assessment instruments (without

relying solely on those instruments) to gain an

understanding of the coachee's situation

 Expresses sincere interest in the coachee's life stories

 Takes time to understand the situation from the coachee's

perspective

 Listens deeply so that the coachee is fully engaged and feels

genuinely understood and valued

 Creates a sense of connection and comfort, fostering a

climate of openness and trust

 Observes and registers all verbal and non-verbal

communication

Step 2: Brainstorm creative alternatives to the coachee's

current situation

This phase broadens the executive's perspective and creates a

sound foundation for the development of creative solutions and

behavioral change. The objective is to increase the choices

available to a coachee who is facing a challenging situation.

One of the most pressing issues for coachees is the feeling of

being "stuck" in a particular situation with no visible alternate

course of action available. In some circumstances, particularly in

times of heightened stress, perspective can narrow, resulting in

mental and emotional "tunnel vision." The effect resembles a

confrontation with a massive wall--nothing is visible but that

wall.

An effective coach draws the coachee back and restores a

broader perspective, which is a prerequisite for the next stages

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in the coaching partnership. Absent creative brainstorming, the

coachee continues to circle and repeat the same patterns of

behavior. Essentially, the first natural reaction in this "stuck

state" is to do "more of the same."

Key coaching behaviors

 Utilizes a variety of tools and techniques to interrupt the

coachee's habitual patterns, thus breaking the "stuck state"

 Surprises coachees with creative, unexpected questions

 Brainstorms a variety of alternatives to the current situation,

probing beyond initial responses to unearth a broad

spectrum of options

Step 3: Hone goals

In Step 3, the coachee forges alternatives and possibilities into

specific goals. This is the stage at which SMART goals are

created and/or refined, and it is essential that the principles of

effective goals formulation be taken into account. This is more

difficult than it may first appear. Most executives are very aware

of what they do not want. However, they frequently find it

highly challenging to specify exactly what they do want. In this

step, the coach helps the executive to clearly articulate specific,

desired results.

Key coaching behaviors

 Encourages precise definition of goals (in positive terms)

 Takes time to develop SMART goals

 Works with the coachee to develop goal(s) with high

personal meaning and relevance

 Ensures that the goals are, in fact, the coachee's

 Develops a specific set of measurements with the coachee to

provide clear evidence of goal achievement

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Step 4: Generate options for goal achievement

Having decided upon a specific goal, the aim at Step 4 is to

develop a wide range of methods of achieving it. At this point,

the purpose is not to find the "right" option, but rather to

stimulate the coachee to develop an abundant array of

alternatives. No option, however seemingly appealing, should

form the sole focus of attention. At this stage, the quantity,

novelty and variety of the options are more important than their

quality or feasibility.

Key coaching behaviors

 Exhibits confidence in the process and works with the

coachee to develop alternative pathways to the desired goal

 Uses a broad spectrum of techniques and questioning styles

to stimulate the coachee to generate options

 Provides space and time for the coachee to think creatively

 Ensures that the coachee "owns" the options generated

Step 5: Evaluate options

Having generated a comprehensive list of options, the next step

is for the coachee to evaluate and prioritize them. As is the case

in Step 3, "Hone Goals," this is the stage at which an experienced

coach can guide the executive towards developing focus.

Without a well-defined focus for action, the executive is unlikely

to move forward effectively.

We have found that executives who are skilled at evaluating

options for their business objectives often find it difficult to

apply the same techniques to their private lives. In such

situations, the coach can serve to remind the coachee of the

value of these techniques, and encourage their application on a

personal level.

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Key coaching behaviors

 Encourages the coachee to develop personally meaningful

criteria for the evaluation of options, since these criteria

form the basis for option selection

 Probes the coachee to develop a comprehensive evaluation

of each option

 Ensures that the key options and their evaluation are fixed in

writing for future reference

Step 6: Design a valid action plan

As one coach described it, "This is where the rubber meets the

road!" At this stage, a concrete and pragmatic action plan is

designed. One of the main advantages of executive coaching in

industry and commerce is that it provides "just in time" learning

and development when and where an executive needs it. This

stage of committing to a plan means that the executive is ready

to take action.

With many executive development programs, the challenge is

translating "classroom learning" into everyday practice.

Coaching helps bridge this gap, and the executive commits to

taking action using newly acquired skills.

Key coaching behaviors

 Creates a detailed action plan with the coachee

 Works with the coachee to check the feasibility and

achievability of the plan

 Fixes the action plan in writing

 Ensures the coachee's commitment to the action plan

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Step 7: Encourage momentum

This is represented as the final stage in the Achieve Coaching

Model®. While the final step in a coaching partnership may be to

facilitate the coachee's execution of the defined action plan, the

role of the coach in encouraging momentum between coaching

sessions is equally important.

As a US coach explained, encouraging momentum is a "crucial

part of the process. Until the new behavior becomes the new

reality, it remains difficult...executives who are in the

transformation

process

need

encouragement

and

reinforcement." We have found that it is important to reinforce

even the smallest steps, since this helps to build and maintain

momentum and increase the executive's level of confidence.

Cumulative small action steps create the critical mass necessary

to accomplish the desired goal. Sustainable change is easier to

achieve with continuous reinforcement and encouragement.

Key coaching behaviors

 Demonstrates continuing interest in the development of the

coachee

 Organizes

regular

"check-in/keep-on-track/follow-up"

coaching sessions

 Takes measures throughout the coaching program to avoid

dependency, and knows when to end the partnership

Conclusion

The aim of this article has been to describe and provide insights

into the practical application of the Achieve Coaching Model®.

Coaches can use the model to structure their coaching sessions

and coaching programs without confining the coach to a

"straightjacket" which inhibits flexibility and individuality. For

those considering hiring a coach, the model provides a

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transparent, forthright description of coaching methodology. It

can also help potential coachees to evaluate coaches when

choosing those with whom they wish to work.

Source:

"Coaching and Buying Coaching Services." 2004. Chartered

Institute of Personnel and Development. London. Available at

http://www.cipd.co.uk/subjects/lrnanddev/coachmntor/coach

buyservs.htm?IsSrchRes=1

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2.21 LASER COACHING

L = Learning

A = Assessing

S = Story-making

E = Enabling

R = Reframing

Eleven Points of Laser Coaching

1. People aren't broken; don't try to fix them.

2. The coachee cannot change another person; they can only

change him/herself.

3. Subtract the coachee's self doubt.

4. Coachees want our partnership vs. our advice.

5. The coachee is responsible for the choices they have made in

life.

6. If the coachee thinks they are in trouble, they are. About

anything. If you have any doubt, ask yourself (and ask the

coachee, “Is this really a problem?”)

7. It's probably not personal (the coachee's "unique" situation.)

8. Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs must be satisfied in correct

order.

Maslow:

1. Physiological: food, drink, shelter, relief from pain

2. Safety and security: freedom from threatening events or

surroundings.

3. Belongingness, social, and love: friendship, affiliation,

interaction, and love

4. Esteem: self-esteem and esteem of others

5. Self actualization: fulfill self by maximizing use of your

abilities, skills, and potential

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Coach U’s Path of Development

 Restoration:

heal trauma, free of addictions/

compulsions, incompletions ok

 Personal Foundation: Standards, needs, boundaries etc.

 Adult: internally motivated, money and reserve,

responsible for self and life

 Attraction: community, network, friends and family

 True Values: career/work integrated into life, expresses

values, values known and honored

 Fulfillment: peaceful, happy, effortlessness

 Legacy: created and lived, contribution, vision and

purpose clear

9. Converse with the wise part of the coachee.

10. Recognize b.s. immediately.

11. Speak the truth as it occurs; trust your Self.

CONTEXT FOR LASER COACHING

• 4 L’s - Listen, Love, EnLighten, Lead

• New 123 Coach - Listen, Evoke, Clarify, Discuss, Support

• NEW MODEL FOR LASER COACHING TODAY:

T I DA L - Touch, Intrude, Design, Align, Lead

Laser Coaching is about the first two steps: Touching and

Intruding

Traditional Coaching can mistakenly be like classic “Scientific

Problem Solving”:

Situation, Brainstorm, Alternatives, Choose One,

Implementation, Follow Up

Laser Coaching can mistakenly be thought of as doing all that,

but faster or cleaner.

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NO NO, NO, NO - This is Laser Coaching:

Coachee:

I have this pain in my eye, and it is a problem

for me.

Laser Coach: When did this start?

Coachee:

When I started sticking myself in the eye with a

sharp stick.

Laser Coach: Stop sticking yourself in the eye with a sharp stick.

This is the Express version to set up Laser Coaching.

Touch the coachee emotionally, intellectually, physically.

Establish trust.

Be in their shoes

Acknowledge them

Know them

See their vision

Get Permission (10 x more than you think you need)

Intrude.

Interact with what they say and what's behind what they

say.

Listen to and look for their intelligence, values, purpose,

strengths, greatness

Be respectful; use a light touch.

Stand for them; advocate them.

Some laser techniques:

Take a position opposite of what the coachee says.

Exaggerate what they are saying to the maximum.

Point out the inconsistencies.

Step over nothing.

Give them something to disagree with.

Ask them, “What's the best way to work with you here?”

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Ask them, “What else is true about this situation?”

SOURCE: Shirley Anderson, MS, CMC, MCC

Master Certified Coach , Certified Mentor Coach

703 Third Avenue - Frederick, SD 57441

Tel: 1-605-329-2622 - Fax: 1-605-329-2623

Email:shirley@coachmiami.com

Laser coaching involves one or a few coaching sessions to

address an urgent and/or very specific issue. It also can be used

to demonstrate the coaching process to a potential coachee. It's

also useful for very busy people who are reluctant to commit to

a long-term program.

Laser Coaching For Optimum Success

By Faith Monson

Many busy professionals put off success coaching because

they're afraid of the time commitment. They fear weekly one-

hour appointments stretching on indefinitely. Because of that

fear, they miss out on the benefits of feedback from a

professional coach on life, work and success issues.

Laser coaching removes the fear of long-term commitment.

With laser coaching, coachees hone down their concerns to one

bite-sized piece that can be addressed in a single hour. Coachee

and coach work intensively for one hour on that specific issue,

and emerge with an action plan. No further sessions are

necessary. Additional laser coaching on different topics can

always be added without ongoing commitment.

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Laser coaching works best in the following situations:

Situation #1:

The coachee can narrowly define the behavior or obstacle and is

clear about its impact. Because laser coaching has only one hour,

there's no time to dig into the past or uncover cause and effect.

The coachee should come prepared with a clearly defined

problem and objective. For example, a coachee who is fearful

about pulling together a major presentation could meet with a

coach to devise strategies for organizing and presenting the

material, along with positive reinforcement techniques.

Situation #2:

The problem involves interpersonal relationships such as a

problem boss or a difficult colleague. Laser coaching can help

develop skills for dealing with difficult people that manage

conflict successfully. It deals with the here-and-now, not

untangling long-standing patterns.

Situation #3:

The problem is part of a larger issue that can be broken into

smaller related pieces. For example, a coachee who fears public

speaking may choose to deal with that fear over a series of laser

coaching sessions spread out at her convenience as budget

permits. One session might deal with techniques for speaking to

a small group, while another session might cover body language

and gestures. By breaking a big topic into smaller pieces, it's

possible to make progress without a long-term coaching

commitment.

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Situation #4:

The coachee has one or two concerns but is otherwise confident

about his/her life and career. If a coachee only needs help with

one or two defined concerns, laser coaching makes sense as a

time-efficient and cost-effective way to get results.

Situation #5:

A coachee wants to check out a coach before making a long-term

commitment. Starting with one or two laser coaching sessions is

a great way to make sure you and the coach are a good fit.

By making coaching a defined project with a beginning,

objective and clear end, laser coaching as a technique appeals to

many busy professionals. Most importantly, laser coaching

makes success coaching accessible to more people than ever

before, helping professionals become more confident,

productive and fulfilled.

Faith Monson is a Success Consultant who works with

entrepreneurs,

designers,

retailers

and

sales-driven

organizations. She makes people and businesses better by

daring them to be great and helping them to reach their full

potential. Visit http://www.FaithMonson.com or contact her

directly at Faith@FaithMonson.com or 703-237-2077.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Faith_Monson

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2.22 POSITIVE COACHING

P = Purpose

O = Observations

S = Strategy

I = Insight

T =Team

I = Initiate

V = Value

E = Encourage

•Developed from GROW and ACHIEVE

•Based on critical questions

•Developed by Vincenzo Libri in 2004

This model addresses the more psychological aspect of the

coaching relationship. It incorporates some psychological

perspectives, such as the inclusion of social support and positive

reinforcement.

Purpose:

The coach encourages the coachee to gain some clarity as to

what they want to achieve from the coaching relationship. The

coach must build good rapport through techniques such as

active listening, open questions, observation, encouragement,

etc.

Observations:

The coach encourages coachees to think about what is

happening

around them. The coach’s role in this phase is to help coachees

see their position with greater clarity and from a holistic

viewpoint.

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Strategy: Once it has been agreed that coaching is a viable

option and the coachee has developed a sound understanding of

their present conditions and environment, an end-state or goal

can be considered. In helping to formulate a goal plan for the

coachee to follow.

‘SMART’ goal-setting is a recommended technique to ensure the

goals are clear, concrete, specific and realistic: (SMART is

an acronym for Specific, Measurable, Attractive, Realistic and

Time-bound.)

Insight:

Here the coach encourages coachees to consider their goal and

what emotions the goal brings. This phase is to determine if the

goal is indeed what the coachee wants, and if it is an accurate

picture of the coachee’s present and future aims.

Team:

If coachees can be made to feel they have a support network

that they can turn to when experiencing difficulty, they are more

likely to continue on their goal path. The coach is one member of

the support team – but coachees should be encouraged to

recognise their network of friends, colleagues, family, etc.

Initiate:

Here the coach encourages coachees to initiate their goal by

taking positive steps towards it, by executing the agreed goal

plan.

Value:

The coach should set weekly or short-term tasks that will lead

coachees eventually to their long-term goal. In this way,

coachees will receive regular feedback on their progress and can

value and celebrate their advancement.

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Encourage:

The coach must help the coachee remain motivated, positive