I found in that prolonged and continuing critical moment of transformation a kind of transcendence. I experienced on many levels that we can speak the "Yes" to our becoming because the "Yes" brings us nothing to fear. Indeed, the "Yes" took me beyond unfounded fears into a clear sense of my becoming self, the self I had always been, and what that meant to my whole being. Paradoxically, I became what I had always been. What changed was my acceptance of my becoming self and whole being that kept me alive and living beyond the limits beyond any meaning perspectives. My becoming self and whole being informed and comforted me through all the painful years of my living. This becoming self and whole being had lived in me and motivated the best of me all my life. When the transformation came, I became a realization of who and what I was all along. Seeing it now, it happened like a kind of fairy tale. Even as I experienced this transformative and transcendent moment, I wondered what my realization would mean to Silvia. After nearly twenty years of living together, she might feel somewhat disoriented with my realization. Very soon, I found the glowing truth about her love. Silvia had always accepted me, and she continued to accept me. Actually, it was like beauty and the beast wherein she saw the beauty in me always, and all I had to do was discover that I was my own beauty as well. She simply felt happy that I could care more about myself than I had ever done. Silvia always lived the "Yes" with me, and at that point, I became more able to live out the "Yes" in myself more fully with her.