A C K N O W L E D G E M E N T S
To start with, I have to say a special thank you to all the people who have asked those questions that led me into writing this book – you are the real authors of this work. I would also like to appreciate my colleagues in Michael Stevens Consulting who I believe are the most wonderful set of people to work with, and my boss – Mr Francis Kudayah - who has helped me in many ways.
Whatever the weaknesses and/or shortcomings that may be in this book, they would have been far greater without the assistance and kind help of Mrs Adeola Kudaya and Ms Omobolanle Lawal who went through the entire document before it got to press, always asking pointed questions; I thank them for their questions, comments, constructive criticisms, and inputs. I would like to thank my publishers PINPOYNT CONCEPTUAL SOLUTIONS especially Mr Olaseni Pinheiro and his team who edited the book.
My Mum and my siblings - Bola, Bosun, Seyi and Biodun have been a tremendous support, words alone cannot express the thanks I owe them.
Finally, I must specially appreciate my wife - Taiwo Komolafe, for her sacrifice, support, encouragement and assistance all the way. She’s indeed my Number 1 fan!
Thank You All!
Oluseye A. Komolafe, 2011
C O N T E N T S
Poem: Bridal Dream ix
Preface xi
The Levels Of Life 1
Selfishness, Sacrifice And Martyrdom 15
The Dynamics Of Marriage Relationship:
The Child, The Adult & The Parent 37
Rigid & Unbalanced Lifestyles 45
Surface Needs Vs Driving Needs 57
B r i d a l D r e a m
I'm waiting for the day
When I can finally say
That I'm a married woman
And that my husband is my number one fan
'Cause at the moment it's only a dream
At times I just want to scream
Fearing this will never happen for me
Yet in my mind it's all I see
Wanting to wear that white gown
And feel like the queen of the town
To have flowers all around
To have bubbles blowin' from the ground
The perfect wedding that's what I want
But bad dreams haunt
Me every day
Thinking, knowing I'll never see it that way
What can I say, it's every girls dream
To be a bride and beam
Beautiful for the world to see
And know she's all she can be
I dream of being a bride
By the ocean and crashing tide
The warmth of the sun
For my day to finally come
But for me it will never be that way
It's a dream, that's all I can say.
The confession of a girl -- Jessica Diamond