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Tools to Become the Hero Inside You

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By Rhett Bise © 2010 Hero Transformation System, All Rights Reserved.

Disclaimer (Legal Stuff)

“The Phone Booth,” “Transformational Tools,” and www.herotransformation.com, and their contents are the property of Rhett Bise and Hero Transformation System. This information is not to be distributed, in part or in whole, reprinted or resold without the express permission of Rhett Bise and Hero Transformation System. This information is intended for the use of authorized recipient only and is subject to U.S. and international copyright laws.

The reader understands that the information in this book is advice intended for entertainment and personal development purposed. Nothing in this book is intended to replace therapy or health care from a medical professional. Information in this book is not to be treated as medical or professional psychological advice.

This material is intended only for readers over eighteen (18) years of age. In viewing this material, the reader stipulates to being over eighteen years of age.

The reader assumes any and all responsibility for any actions taken as a direct or indirect result of reading the material. Rhett Bise and Hero Transformation System assume no responsibility for the reader’s actions – the reader is solely responsible for the reader’s actions and any consequences that result from those actions. The reader must exercise sound judgment and common sense.

While the author has made every effort to ensure the information in this book, the website (www.herotransformation.com), and the blog (www.herotransformation.wordpress.com) is accurate, there will undoubtedly be some inaccuracies in the information provided. The author assumes no responsibility for such inaccuracies and the reader, in purchasing this book, or reading the website, or reading the blog, agrees to accept the information “as-is,” including any possible inaccuracies.

So, basically, be honest, take ownership for your own life, and use common sense. As a student of this work, I trust that you already adhere to these basic principles in your life and apologize for wasting your time with this legal nonsense. This is only intended for the few people who lack basic ethics and/or common sense, and I trust you are not one of those people.

Now… with that out of the way… let’s get to the real work at hand!
Table of Contents
Introduction 4
Chapter One: The Foundation 6
Chapter Two: Visualizing Your Hero 17
Chapter Three: Presence 21
Chapter Four: Inquiry 26
Chapter Five: Releasing the Negative 29
Chapter Six: Self-Acceptance 32
Chapter Seven: Continuing Your Transformation 38 Introduction: Taking That First Step

Congratulations! You have taken the first step in shedding that “old you,” the one who is covered with layer upon layer of BS put there by others, and transforming into the amazing, sexy, magnetic HERO that lies inside you, wanting to come out.

This mini-course will give you essential tools and concepts to help you through your transformational journey. You’ll find cutting-edge techniques to help you find your breakthroughs and dramatically change your life.

You deserve this change. You deserve to live a big life. No more trying to “get something,” it’s time for you to BE that something, to discover a greatness you only dreamed about before.

My Personal Journey

For YEARS I was one of those guys like you who tried EVERYTHING, and nothing seemed to “stick.” But something inside me kept driving me to keep trying, to keep going. The hero in me wanted to emerge, but I kept stumbling.

And I was super frustrated.

I mean, I’m reasonably good-looking, smart, good personality, doing a lot of great things in my life… yet I was feeling “tied down” to this small life, this low opinion of myself. And all the things I tried to get the success I thought I deserved in my life never seemed to click.

I kept thinking to myself “I SHOULD be better than this. WHAT’S WRONG WITH ME??”

Eventually my self-doubt and frustration led me to some bad places in life, and it was there, in the throes of frustration and insecurity, that I had my breakthrough. I found what it was that was keeping me from “getting it.”

And then I started “getting it!”

I went from being one of the “frustrated ninety percent” who try self-improvement systems and fail to the “phenomenal ten percent.” In fact, within a few months of my breakthrough, I became a “superstar student” to one of the world’s elite personal coaches – who was telling me I was inspiring HIM!

Now I’m at a point where I have the skills and the belief system to create the superstar identity I want for myself. The sky is the limit.

 

It’s Not About Getting, It’s About Being

I realized my whole matrix was messed up. It wasn’t about “finding the success” I wanted, it was about BEING GREAT. Whatever you think you want in life, whether it be relationships, money, friends, spiritual connection, is a byproduct of your being. When you step into your heroic self, the things you need for fulfillment will come into your life naturally, effortlessly.

The more you reach for “something,” whether it be a woman, money, approval, anything, the more it slips out of reach. The more you allow yourself to BECOME the amazing man you are, the more you are BEING that big, amazing, fulfilled man, the more you realize there is nothing “out there” to reach for. And then amazing things start finding you.

How To Use This Book

This is not a novel to read at bedtime. This is an interactive study that requires your full participation. And for the lessons to have their intended effect, you need to learn and embody them.

So first, take your time and carefully read the lessons. You may need to read them more than once, repetition is critical to learning.

 

Second, do the practices, actually do them. Keep doing the practices and make them a part of your being. Embody the practices. This is essential to any change.

 

And please let me know about your progress – successes, breakthroughs, resistance and questions. I want to help you succeed. Email me: Rhett@herotransformation.com

 

Finally, I invite you to see this mini-course a “first step” in your total life transformation.

After embodying the practices in here, I want you to find the inspiration to make a commitment to COMPLETE change – commit to the whole system by purchasing “The Phone Book” and making a commitment to total life transformation.

When you are ready, order it here: www.herotransformation.com/phonebooth

 

Chapter One: The Foundation What Does It Mean To Be A Hero?

 

We begin our journey by discovering what a hero really is.

Being a hero doesn’t necessarily mean rescuing people from burning buildings or arresting bad guys. That could be your calling, but this world need all kinds of heroes, and your inner hero will look different than someone else’s. So what is a hero?

A hero is connected to his inner essence and fully embodies the divine in him.

 

· A hero has let go of the negative BS of the world. He is energized from within and does not look to others for approval or permission.

· A hero is powerfully present and connected to the moment. A hero lives in the moment, fully embodied. His presence fills the room. People notice his presence before they even see him.

· A hero is courageously authentic. A hero is committed to his true self and asserts that true self in the face of disapproval from others.

· A hero is open-hearted, loving and recognizes the divine in everyone around him. He is connected to the divine inside himself and the divine in everyone around him. This makes him both a humble servant and a bold leader.

· A hero is committed to his purpose and makes his purpose his top priority.

 

And What Do You Get For Being A Hero?

 

There are a lot of benefits for going into that phone booth and becoming that hero.

· A hero is damn sexy. A man who is on his purpose, who honors the divine in himself and everyone around him, who isn’t looking for approval or validation, who is courageously authentic, who is deeply present, is being his divine masculine self. There is nothing more attractive in a man. No techniques, no lines, no routines can make up for the “real deal,” and the hero IS the “real deal.”

· A hero is fulfilled from within. A hero is living his purpose and being his true self.

There is no little voice telling him to do something else, because he is living his truth. This is a process of getting to know the hero inside you, letting go of the BS that’s keeping you from embodying your essence, and stepping into that heroic you. You’ll be donning a new mask, a new personality, like Clark Kent going into the phone booth and emerging Superman. You aren’t going to go back and “fix what’s wrong,” you’re going to create a whole new you, the man you’ve always dreamed of being, the man filled with purpose, fully authentic. Because the man you want to be is the man you truly are. And when you’re fully authentic and living as the man you want to be, connected to your divinity, you will be the hero you were meant to be.

Your hero is calling you. Are you ready?

 

How Badly Do You Want This?

Are you ready for REAL transformation? Are you ready to stop looking for half-measures? Are you ready to live your real dream, to be that fully evolved man you were meant to be? That’s why this book came into your life. Grab this opportunity, for you.

Find that part of you that’s SICK and TIRED of wanting more and falling short. Find that part of you that is SICK and TIRED of feeling inferior to other men, of being needy and intimidated around women. Find that part of you that is SICK and TIRED of living a secondbest life.

There’s a lot involved in this transformation process. Whether you see it as “work” or “inspiration” depends on how ready you are to make that change. Your success in this process requires you to be willing to do whatever it takes to make this happen in your life.

So find that part of you that wants to BE that man. Make a promise to do whatever it takes to make that change. If you are fully committed, you WILL become that hero.

 

The Key Ingredient to Real Change

 

The key to real transformation comes down to MINDSET.

I want you to throw away whatever reason you originally had for coming to this place. You see, since most guys have to be pretty much dragged kicking and screaming to a place where they’re willing to work on themselves, they usually have a very good-sounding “external reason” for doing so. Not to over-generalize, but most of the time it’s “success with women.”

Guys come into this arena to GET more external success. And we think we’re going to go in, find the magic bullet, to get that thing we want and get the hell out.

And, years later… here we are, stuck in a quagmire, with no “success.”
So stop thinking in terms of getting an outcome. Change for the RIGHT reason: because it’s the best thing for YOU!

The KEY INGREDIENT to Real Change: Doing It For YOU!
If you are trying to change to get women to like you, or to get money or approval from others, you will not change. It will never happen.
However, if you are changing because it’s something you genuinely want in your life, ANY change is possible. And if you want it, you will have it.
DO THIS FOR YOU!

 

So you can try a bunch of systems that promise to “get” you things, like women, or money, or success, and maybe have some shallow success and wonder why you’re still unfulfilled…

…or you can BECOME the HERO. You can step into that powerful man, on his purpose, complete and fulfilled, living a big, amazing, meaningful life. And as that hero, you can and have those “things” you truly desire built into your life, without NEEDING them. You can be that man who loves himself, loves his life, loves the world and has the world loving him back, a man fully connected to his divinity and happiness.

So which do you really want?

 

That’s what I thought. Now make the commitment.

 

Your Heroic Commitment

Right now, take out a piece of paper. Write down today’s date. Write on that piece of paper your personal promise – you are committed to becoming the hero you were meant to be, and today is the first day of your new life. Then sign it. Keep this around as your personal contract to break through into a new life.

The Success Belief

Sitting quietly, with your spine erect, begin to notice your breath. Is your breath shallow or deep? Is your breath rapid or slow? With your next breath, make your breathing slower and deeper. Make the next breath even slower and deeper. Make each breath the slowest and deepest breath you have ever taken.

Close your eyes. Feel your feet on the ground, your butt and the back of your legs on the chair. Feel the muscles in your body relax, starting from the top of your head, down your face, down your neck, into your shoulders, down your arms into your hands, down your chest and back, down your abdomen, into your pelvis. Feel your cock and balls relax. Feel your thighs relax. Feel your shins and feet relax.

Imagine a line going to your right, going into your future. Imagine yourself leaving the body you’re in and travelling down that line. One day. One week. One month into your future. Feel yourself moving down that timeline to the right, further into the future. Two months. Feel yourself moving a little faster. Four months.

Feel yourself stopping at six months into the future. Maybe you’ve mastered this book, maybe you’re still going through the work, but you’ve made amazing strides. Now imagine a mirror in front of you. Notice how much you’ve changed. You’ve REALLY changed! It’s visible, it’s tangible.

Feel into your body – notice how much more embodied you feel. Feel into your emotions – you’re so much more present, grounded, confident. You’ve done it! You’ve changed!

There is no backsliding, only momentum to keep changing, to keep going. You’ve finally made it through all those old sticking points.

Now, imagine this new you taking on one of those old challenges and mastering it with ease. Now having success with women, or your career, or whatever it is you’re wanting, is just a byproduct of your new way of being. How does that feel?

How does it feel knowing all of this has ALREADY HAPPENED?
Slowly bring yourself back to the you seated there. Bring yourself into your body. Open your eyes. Know this WILL happen for you.

 

Find Your Purpose

When you were placed on this earth, you were given a purpose. It is your unique gift and your divine expression to the world. It is what motivates a man and connects him to his divinity. It is part of your unique, amazing, divine essence.

A man on his purpose is in alignment. He is powerful, focused and fulfilled. He may likely never achieve what he was set out on this earth to do, that is part of what a purpose is, a commitment to something greater than himself.

While a man will not fulfill his purpose, a man on his purpose will fulfill his unique and essential part, ensuring the world he leaves behind is better for his efforts. In this way, a man on his purpose is a hero.

A man on his purpose is not looking to others to tell him how to live, or looking for someone else to fulfill him. A man on his purpose is fulfilled from within. He is guided by something within that compels him to serve something greater than himself. Most men today have lost their sense of purpose. They are either looking to others to figure out what to do, or simply living lives of stunted adolescence, living for temporary pleasure with no meaningful direction. These men act like children and do not command respect from others. Often these men have hidden away their purpose out of fear, that their purpose is not acceptable, or that they are unworthy of living such a purpose.

This doesn’t mean a man on his purpose doesn’t have fun. In fact, a man living his purpose experiences far deeper pleasure and connections because he is aligned, and thus fully able to experience the joys in life. Meanwhile the man in rudderless pursuit of pleasure is looking to experiences to distract him from the part of his life that seems unfulfilled. Therefore he can only experience pleasure in a limited way, and is constantly anxious for acquiring the next source of pleasure.

A man on his purpose is powerfully attractive to a woman, because he is fully being the man he was born to be. A man on his purpose will attract women and friends who are also drawn to his purpose. He becomes the sun around which others orbit.

And because he is living his purpose, driven by something more powerful than himself, his relationships take on a new meaning. He isn’t dependent on others, whether it’s a woman, friends or family, for his fulfillment. His greater purpose is his fulfillment. His energy is focused on his purpose, not on gaining the approval of others.

It’s time for you to find your purpose.

Begin exploring your purpose in life. Ask yourself what is your purpose. Can you picture one? Is there anything that you feel compels you at your core? This doesn’t have to be what you do, but what truly drives you.

It’s okay if nothing comes to mind, or if it’s very fuzzy right now. But begin to think about it. And picture being a man on his purpose, living in the way described above.

 

Realize You Are Not Who You Think You Are

Right now, you are living someone else’s life. The thoughts you are thinking, the beliefs you call “true” for you, your identity, the way you think, is programming that was put in there by someone else. You might tell yourself that you consciously chose to accept these things, or you have really good rational proof for what you believe and how you see yourself. But when you drill down to the core, most often you’ll find all of what you see as “you” is someone else’s thoughts, beliefs, fears, doubts and wishes.

You’re going to need to come to terms with this reality. You are not your thoughts. There is a real you witnessing those thoughts. You are not your identity, or the sum of your actions. There is a divine essence that transcends all thought, all ego, and all actions. I don’t expect you to fully embody this right now, but I’m giving you this meditation practice, to begin differentiating your true self from the “you” that you have been telling yourself you are. Return to this from time to time as you continue your evolution, and the realization will become more and more clear.

Meditation Practice

Begin by grounding yourself as you did for the previous exercise. Spend five minutes in this calm state. Allow your thoughts to settle. Begin to notice the spaces between your thoughts, dive into those spaces. Allow those spaces to expand. Begin to notice how there is a “you” outside of your thoughts. Feel into that bigger “you.” Notice how you are not your thoughts, that your thoughts are like clouds in the sky and you are the sky.

Feel into this “you.” Who is that? Chances are, up to now, you’ve been basing your impression of yourself on your thoughts. Thoughts that aren’t you. Thoughts that, on closer inspection, aren’t really yours. The man you have been thinking you are up to now is not you.

Feel into that truth. There is a much deeper, simpler essence that is you. Feel into that essence.

That’s right. You are not your thoughts. All of your thoughts and beliefs are someone else’s, accepted by you with good intentions, or just accepted without you even having the chance to decide.

Now, focus your attention onto someone you know who decided they were going to tell the world who they are, and the world had to accommodate for them. Maybe an inspirational person whose making their mark in the world with a physical disability, or that ugly dude who pisses you off because he gets all the girls… or that hot chick who wasn’t “supposed to be” hot. Instead of seeing them as “special,” I want you to turn the whole thing around.

They’re “normal.” It’s the rest of us who are fucked up. That’s why at some level people like that both fascinate and annoy us. They are living proof that you can be the person you want to be, that nobody really is a “victim” of society.

Can you feel their essence shining through, bigger than the beliefs of others? Can you feel that sense?
Can you feel their essence shining through, bigger than the beliefs of others? Can you feel that sense of inspiration, that YOU could shine your essence like this person?

Be with this new reality. Allow it to settle in. Notice what comes up – anger? Fear? Frustration? What does the idea that your limitations, the things about yourself you thought were just things you had to live with, are in fact entirely optional bring up inside you?

How about the reality that the life you’ve been living to this point was someone else’s life? How does it feel to accept that reality? Are you finding yourself resisting the reality, fighting it?

Allow yourself to accept the reality that you are not the “you” who you thought you were, then open your eyes. The world is a little different now, isn’t it?

Be with this new reality. Allow it to settle in. Notice what comes up – anger? Fear? Frustration? What does the idea that your limitations, the things about yourself you thought were just things you had to live with, are in fact entirely optional bring up inside you?

Transforming Yourself Through Deliberate Practice: Change One Thing

 

Right now PICK ONE THING you want to change. Make it something simple, to get the hang of this, like the way you make eye contact, or maybe an awkward grin, or eliminating one nervous gesture.

After you’ve come up with that one thing you want to change, figure out what you want to do instead. If you picked changing your smile, maybe you want to change from a toothy grin to a closed-lip, sly grin.

Go through the steps:
1. Embodiment. Feel how it is to do the new thing, or feel the new belief, versus how it feels in your body to do the old thing. Bring awareness to moving toward the “new thing.”

2. Inquiry. Notice where your thoughts and beliefs are moving you to either stop doing the new thing or continue the old. Are things coming up like “this is not me,” “this feels stupid,” or “I can’t do this?” Stop and ask those parts of you what they want. Listen to their feedback.

3. Release. Practice letting go of negative beliefs and resistance getting in the way. (There are lots of techniques coming up.) For now, use this technique:
You’ve been introduced to the process of change, and we will be going into much more detail later. But we want to start changing NOW.

a. Ask yourself what is holding you back from changing.
b. Ask yourself if you can let that go.
c. Ask yourself if you can let it go now.
d. Breathe in deeply and as you exhale, imagine this resistance or negative belief exhaling

out your mouth. Continue doing b, c, and d until the it’s released.
4. Acceptance. Accept yourself as you are, even as you go through this process of change. Accept the process of change, allow it space to work. Accept this is a process and that you are perfect and amazing as you are, even as you are undertaking this change.

So Notice the feedback on how the change is going, go back to Embodiment.

 

REMEMBER THIS RECIPE. IT IS YOUR RECIPE FOR CHANGE.
Doing Everything With Intention/ Doing Everything Different

A lot of this transformation practice is getting you out of “auto pilot” and getting you to practice breaking old habits. So this is an ALL DAY practice. Remember, it’s PRACTICE, so keep going even if it’s not going right. This is going to be a LOT tougher than it sounds, so BE PATIENT WITH YOURSELF.

Throughout your day, bring attention to everything you’re doing. Ask yourself if this is how you want to do it. Notice every routine. How are you brushing your teeth? How are you getting out of bed? How are you picking out and putting on your clothes? How are you eating your breakfast?

How are you showering? Studies show people have a set routine for how they shower.

 

How are you breathing? How are you moving, even how are you blinking and swallowing?

How are you interacting with people? How are you going about your workday? If you go to the gym, how are you doing the exercises? How do you decide what to eat, when to eat, how to eat? How are you driving your car? How are you walking? How are you talking?

Notice everything and ask yourself if this is what you want to do. If the answer is “no,” IMMEDIATELY substitute something different, even if it feels weird.

And change things you’re indifferent to changing. Change the way you eat and shower. Change the way you do five things that are just “things you do,” and journal them. Journal how you’ve been doing it, what you did different and how it felt to do it different.

The Hero’s Breath

This is the single most critical aspect to the growth process. Breath is the access to presence and to all of the exercises in this book. It isn’t something you bring up only when you’re working through the practices, breathing needs to become a daily focus, so make this a practice. Keep reminding yourself to breathe properly until it becomes natural.

Breath work is critical for being embodied and cultivating presence. It relaxes the body, slows down the “chattering monkeys” in your mind and cultivates a sexy confidence that will grow the more attention you put on your breath.
The Belly Breath

Train yourself to make the belly breath your normal way of breathing. A man who breathes into his belly is more grounded, more relaxed, more embodied, and more sexy. It’s the way we were meant to breathe – slow, deep, powerful breaths, expanding the belly with each inhale, bringing the belly in with each exhale.

With this breath, you breathe in through your nose, drawing the breath into your belly as deep as possible. Your belly will expand and contract. To practice, place one of your hands on your belly, about at your navel. Place the other on your chest. As you inhale through your nose, feel the hand over your belly rise while the other hand remains steady until the end of your breath when your chest expands to complete the breath. As you exhale, the hand over your chest drops first, then the hand over your belly as you push the air completely out your mouth. With practice, this becomes a fluid motion.

Throughout the day as you do this exercise, you’ll mostly just breathe in and out through your nose, but take a couple minutes every hour to do deep, conscious breathing, in through your nose, out through your mouth.

When practicing, imagine taking the deepest, slowest, fullest breath possible. Imagine this breath going as low into your abdomen as possible. “Breathe into your balls.” Then make the next breath deeper and slower. And the one after that deeper and slower still. Practice holding your breath a moment at the top and bottom.

At first, training yourself to belly breathe will be a conscious effort. While we began life breathing in this way, most of us switched to chest-breathing, which is tight, shallow and constrained. So make a conscious effort to breathe into your belly. Notice when you are not belly breathing and bring awareness to it. Eventually, your neurology will shift and you will naturally belly breathe without conscious effort.

Even at this point, continue to bring conscious awareness to your breath, making it as deep, as full and as slow as possible.

 

Grounding Meditation

This is a critical practice for being grounded and centered, for the purposes of our transformational practices, and to find your center throughout your day. Practice this regularly and it’ll go a LONG way toward creating the deep presence you need.

First, find yourself a place that is quiet and free from distraction. Sit so that your spine is erect.

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