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TECHNIQUES

FOR PERSONAL

COACHING AND

SELF

COACHING

Dean Amory

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Title: Techniques for Personal Coaching and Self Coaching

Compiled by: Dean Amory

Dean_Amory@hotmail.com

Publisher: Edgard Adriaens, Belgium

eddyadriaens@yahoo.com

ISBN: 978-1-4716-6888-3

© Copyright 2011, Edgard Adriaens, Belgium, - All Rights

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This book has been compiled based on the contents of

trainings, information found in other books and using the

internet. It contains a number of articles and coaching

models indicated by TM or © or containing a reference to

the original author. Whenever you cite such an article or

use a coaching model in a commercial situation, please

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credited, please contact me at: eddyadriaens@yahoo.com

The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share

your riches, but to reveal to him his own. – Benjamin Disrael

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Cover picture: Sam & Jeffrey Adriaens - Fuenzalida

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

1 INTRODUCTION...............................................................316

3 TECHNIQUES FOR COACHING ..............................317

3.1. ACTIVE LISTENING ...................................................317

3.2. ASKING QUESTIONS ..................................................330

3.3 HERON’S 6 CATEGORIES OF INTERVENTION ....360

3.4 RESPONSIVENESS .......................................................362

3.5 GIVING FEEDBACK.....................................................364

3.6 FRAMING - REFRAMING ...........................................372

3.7 REALITY CHECK .........................................................383

3.8 SCALING TECHNIQUES.............................................385

3.9 EXTERNALISING OF PROBLEMS ...........................389

3.10 CREATING RAPPORT ...............................................393

3.11 COLLABORATION BUILDING ................................402

3.12 SAYING “NO”...............................................................422

3.13 I-MESSAGES ................................................................432

3.14 ADVISING .....................................................................440

3.15 CREATIVE THINKING ..............................................449

3.16 TURNING PROBLEMS INTO POSSIBILITIES .....491

3.17 SUMMARIZE, EVALUATE AND WRAP UP ...........498

3.18 ENACTING ...................................................................509

3.19 THE MIRACLE QUESTION.......................................525

3.20 SHARING INFORMATION........................................530

3.21 SELF DISCLOSURE ....................................................533

3.22 USING INTUITION......................................................542

3.23 RECOGNISE LIFE PATTERNS.................................550

3.24 BREAKING THE DRAMA TRIANGLE....................604

3.25 VOICE DIALOGUE .....................................................611

3.26 CONFRONTATION .....................................................615

3.27 PROVOCATION...........................................................632

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3.28 MINDFULNESS ............................................................638

3.29 HOMEWORK ...............................................................647

3.30 HUMOR .........................................................................648

3.31 RESPECT.......................................................................651

3.32 AFFIRM, COMPLIMENT, CELEBRATE ................655

3.33 PAYING ATTENTION ................................................661

3.34 TRUST............................................................................664

3.35 ALLOWING TIME AND SPACE ...............................666

3.36 COPING .........................................................................678

3.37 DIAGNOSING...............................................................688

3.38 THE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT PLAN ..............697

3.39 TRACKING ...................................................................711

3.40 JOINING .......................................................................722

3.41 PARADOXICAL INTERVENTION...........................726

3.42 EMPTY CHAIR TECHNIQUE ...................................728

3.43 THE HUNGER ILLUSION..........................................730

3.44 VALIDATE, INTENSIFY, EMPHASIZE...................733

3.45 CHALLENGE EXISTING PATTERNS .....................747

3.46 SOLUTIONS AND SUCCESSES TO DATE ..............751

3.47 USING SUGGESTIVE COMMUNICATION............763

3.48 THE POWER OF “YES”..............................................784

3.49 VISUALIZATION.........................................................786

3.50 BORROWED GENIUS.................................................839

3.51 IMMEDIACY ................................................................843

3.52 CHALLENGING THE COACHEE ............................845

3.53 MODELLING................................................................850

3.54 PROBLEM ANALYSIS................................................858

3.55 POSITIVITY ................................................................864

3.56 HEAD ON COLLISION ...............................................867

3.57 TRANSFERENCE INTERPRETATION ..................870

3.58 PRIMAL THERAPY ....................................................873

3.59 FOCUSING....................................................................875

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