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Personal

Coaching

DEFINITION AND

COACHING MODELS

Dean Amory

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Title: Personal Coaching

Compiled by: Dean Amory

Dean_Amory@hotmail.com

Publisher: Edgard Adriaens, Belgium

eddyadriaens@yahoo.com

ISBN: 978-1-4716-6790-9

© Copyright 2011, Edgard Adriaens, Belgium, - All Rights

Reserved.

This book has been compiled based on the contents of trainings,

information found in other books and using the internet. It

contains a number of articles and coaching models indicated by

TM or © or containing a reference to the original author.

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commercial situation, please credit the source or check with the

IP -owner. If you are aware of a copyright ownership that I have

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The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your

riches, but to reveal to him his own. – Benjamin Disrael

Cover picture: Freedom - - zenos frukadis - philadelphia

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

1 INTRODUCTION.................................................................12

1 LIFE COACHING : WHAT IT IS - HOW IT WORKS.....13

1.1 BENEFITS OF PERSONAL OR LIFE COACHING....15

1.2 DESCRIPTON OF THE COACHING STYLE..............20

1.3 COACHING MAXIMS .....................................................22

1.4. CORE COACHING SKILLS ..........................................23

1.5. MOTIVATIONAL INTERVIEWING............................67

1.6. THE COACHING CONVERSATION ...........................89

1.7. THE STRUCTURE OF COACHING SESSIONS ........98

2 MODELS FOR COACHING ...........................................114

2.1. THE GROW COACHING MODEL.............................116

2.2 THE GO-PASS COACHING MODEL .........................124

2.3 RADAR-COACHING......................................................126

2.4 PETER HAWKIN’S CLEAR MODEL..........................130

2.5 BECK’S COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL MODEL.........132

2.5.1 THE ABCDE COACHING MODEL..........................136

2.6 NARRATIVE COACHING ............................................147

2.7 THE GATHER FAME MODEL.....................................159

2.8 ENNEAGRAM BASED COACHING............................162

2.9 GERARD EGAN’S 3 STEPS MODEL...........................171

2.10 EGAN'S SKILLED HELPER MODEL ......................172

2.11 THE ROGERIAN BASED COACHING .....................184

2.12 THE SIMPLIFIED FOUR STEPS MODEL................194

2.13 SOLUTION FOCUSED COACHING..........................195

2.14 OSKAR............................................................................207

2.15 SYSTEMIC COACHING.............................................211

2.16 APPRECIATIVE INQUIRY BASED COACHING...219

2.17 THE SUCCESS COACHING MODEL .......................229

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2.18 THE STEPPPA COACHING MODEL........................232

2.19 THE WHAT COACHING MODEL ............................236

2.20 THE ACHIEVE COACHING MODEL ......................238

2.21 THE LASER COACHING MODEL ...........................248

2.22 THE POSITIVE COACHING MODEL......................254

2.23 THE POWER COACHING MODEL..........................257

2.24 THE SPACE COACHING MODEL............................261

2.25 THE CRAIC COACHING MODEL............................262

2.26 THE STEER COACHING MODEL...........................263

2.27 THE CIGAR COACHING MODEL ..........................266

2.28 THE STAR COACHING MODEL .............................267

2.29 THE OUTCOMESTM MODEL....................................268

2.30 THE TREE COACHING MODEL.............................270

2.31 THE AMAP2TM COACHING MODEL .....................275

2.32 THE RESULTSTM COACHING MODEL..................278

2.33 THE STRIDE COACHING MODEL.........................279

2.34 THE FLOW COACHING MODEL............................280

2.35 THE HILDA COACHING MODEL............................281

2.36 THE FORREST COACHING PATH ..........................283

2.37 THE FIVE-STEP COACHING MODEL ....................286

2.38 THE FOUR PHASE MODEL .....................................292

2.39 LIFE CYCLE COACHING.........................................294

2.40 YOUNG BUSINESSNET PRACTISE MODEL........299

2.41 THE ACHIEVE SUCCESS COACHING MODEL ....300

2.42 THE BLENDED COACHING MODEL ......................303

2.43 THE TIM COACHING MODEL .................................308

2.44 THE SPIN COACHING MODEL ................................312

2.45 HOLLISTIC COACHING ...........................................314

NEXT IS WHAT YOU WILL FIND IN PART 2 :

3 TECHNIQUES FOR COACHING ..............................317

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3.1. ACTIVE LISTENING ...................................................317

3.2. ASKING QUESTIONS ..................................................330

3.3 HERON’S 6 CATEGORIES OF INTERVENTION ....360

3.4 RESPONSIVENESS .......................................................362

3.5 GIVING FEEDBACK.....................................................364

3.6 FRAMING - REFRAMING ...........................................372

3.7 REALITY CHECK .........................................................383

3.8 SCALING TECHNIQUES.............................................385

3.9 EXTERNALISING OF PROBLEMS ...........................389

3.10 CREATING RAPPORT ...............................................393

3.11 COLLABORATION BUILDING ................................402

3.12 SAYING “NO”...............................................................422

3.13 I-MESSAGES ................................................................432

3.14 ADVISING .....................................................................440

3.15 CREATIVE THINKING ..............................................449

3.16 TURNING PROBLEMS INTO POSSIBILITIES .....491

3.17 SUMMARIZE, EVALUATE AND WRAP UP ...........498

3.18 ENACTING ...................................................................509

3.19 THE MIRACLE QUESTION.......................................525

3.20 SHARING INFORMATION........................................530

3.21 SELF DISCLOSURE ....................................................533

3.22 USING INTUITION......................................................542

3.23 RECOGNISE LIFE PATTERNS.................................550

3.24 BREAKING THE DRAMA TRIANGLE....................604

3.25 VOICE DIALOGUE .....................................................611

3.26 CONFRONTATION .....................................................615

3.27 PROVOCATION...........................................................632

3.28 MINDFULNESS ............................................................638

3.29 HOMEWORK ...............................................................647

3.30 HUMOR .........................................................................648

3.31 RESPECT.......................................................................651

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3.32 AFFIRM, ACKNOWLEDGE, COMPLIMENT,

CELEBRATE .........................................................................655

3.33 PAYING ATTENTION ................................................661

3.34 TRUST............................................................................664

3.35 ALLOWING TIME AND SPACE ...............................666

3.36 COPING .........................................................................678

3.37 DIAGNOSING...............................................................688

3.38 THE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT PLAN ..............697

3.39 TRACKING ...................................................................711

3.40 JOINING THROUGH MAINTENANCE, TRACKING

AND MIMESIS ......................................................................722

3.41 PARADOXICAL INTERVENTION...........................726

3.42 EMPTY CHAIR TECHNIQUE ...................................728

3.43 THE HUNGER ILLUSION..........................................730

3.44 VALIDATE, INTENSIFY, EMPHASIZE, CONFIRM733

3.45 CHALLENGE EXISTING PATTERNS .....................747

3.46 SOLUTIONS AND SUCCESSES TO DATE ..............751

3.47 USING SUGGESTIVE COMMUNICATION............763

3.48 THE POWER OF “YES”..............................................784

3.49 VISUALIZATION.........................................................786

3.50 BORROWED GENIUS.................................................839

3.51 IMMEDIACY ................................................................843

3.52 CHALLENGING THE COACHEE ............................845

3.53 MODELLING................................................................850

3.54 PROBLEM ANALYSIS................................................858

3.55 POSITIVITY ................................................................864

3.56 HEAD ON COLLISION ...............................................867

3.57 TRANSFERENCE INTERPRETATION ..................870

3.58 PRIMAL THERAPY ....................................................873

3.59 FOCUSING....................................................................875

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NEXT IS WHAT YOU WILL FIND IN PART 3

4/ USEFUL SKILLS ..............................................................878

4.1. PROBLEM SOLVING ...................................................878

4.2 DEALING WITH OBSTACLES AND RESISTANCE901

4.3 FIXING GOALS..............................................................934

4.4 MOTIVATING OTHERS ..............................................949

4.5 SURFING THE FLOW SPIRAL ...................................956

4.6 INCREASING SELF ESTEEM .....................................976

4.7 RESOLVING CONFLICT .............................................995

4.8 DYSFUNCTIONAL PERSONALITY TYPES...........1008

4.9 DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE ...................1013

4.10 LEARNING STYLES .................................................1034

4.11 CHANGE MANAGEMENT .......................................1050

4.12 THE GRIEF CYCLE ...................................................1082

4.13 KNOWING AND NOT KNOWING...........................1089

4.14 RELAPSE PREVENTION ..........................................1156

4.15 BRAINSORTMING.....................................................1159

4.16 DESENTISATION .......................................................1175

4.17 BUILDING ASSERTIVENESS ..................................1176

4.18 ROOT CAUSE ANALYSIS.........................................1178

4.19 THE JOHARI WINDOW............................................1180

4.20 DECISION MAKING..................................................1183

4.21 TIME MANAGEMENT ..............................................1188

4.22 STRATEGIC PLANNING ..........................................1223

4.23 ACTION PLANNING..................................................1244

4.24 THE POWER OF HABITS .........................................1254

4.25 THE ART OF DELEGATION ...................................1258

4.26 AFFIRMATIONS AND POSITIVE THINKING .....1266

4.27 STAGES OF THE CHANGE CONTINUUM............1275

4.28 CONGRUENCE ..........................................................1280

4.29 AUTHENTICITY........................................................1282

4.30 PARADIGMS ..............................................................1286

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4.31 BALANCE ...................................................................1290

4.32 EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (E.Q.)...................1297

4.33 THE FIVE FREEDOMS.............................................1305

4.34 GENDER DIFFERENCES.........................................1311

4.35 PITFALLS FOR COACHING ...................................1314

4.36 FEAR ............................................................................1315

4.37 TEAMWORKING AND TEAMROLES ...................1322

4.38 ANGER MANAGEMENT ..........................................1326

4.39 LEADERSHIP STYLES..............................................1358

4.40 SWOT ANALYSIS.......................................................1392

4.41 THINGS YOU WISH YOU HAD KNOWN SOONER1416

4.42 HOW TO INFLUENCE PEOPLE..............................1447

4.43 THE MINTO PYRAMID PRINCIPLE......................1698

5 EXAMPLES OF COACHING DOCUMENTS ..............1701

5.1 EXAMPLE OF GENERAL INFORMATON FORM 1701

5.2 EXAMPLE OF COACHING AGREEMENT............1707

5.3 EXAMPLE OF COACHING COMMITMENTS.......1712

5.4 EXAMPLE OF ASSESSMENT FORM ......................1714

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