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A Big Thanks... You have already enjoyed 30 of my eBooks. They all, be it fiction or non-fiction, have been my humble endeavor to empower your consciousness for life-living wellness and personal excellence. This 31st eBook is also aimed at continuing to write on the core issues of 3Cs – Consciousness, Cognition and Causality, as I stick to my belief that holistic, integrative and assimilative knowledge of the 3Cs alone can open the doors of wellness and excellence in a world of chaos, conflict and confusion, we live in. There is nothing better than living a self-aware life with poise of purpose...




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Is it appropriate, even necessary to speak out…?

… Deep within, in the primary substructure of the conscious self, this question always lurks around the innocent and compassionate emotion, which definitively wants to be sure of the utility and fruition of any words spelt out.

This emotion has sure and certain righteousness and precision. The uncertainties and embedded troubles of the navigation of communication apart, the primary question is – when reception of expression and meaningfulness of communication rest with listener and not speaker, how can words be allowed to journey ahead without a sense of onus and organization. Even the most compassionate and innocently affectionate words may happen to be instinctive and presupposed culprit of aggression. It has been, in the history of humanity…!

… When even silence often stands guilty of the offence of entrenched antagonism and sado-masochism, words naturally tend to appear as prima facie offenders of hostility.

This shall always happen, as it is our mechanism. Our brain, which handles all expressions and every reception, engenders this innate trouble for humanity. Consciousness has no words and no compassionate connection with linguistic excellence of communication. Unfortunately, more intelligent we become, greater is the probability of our communication and expression becoming dualistic and hence exposed to becoming more antagonistic for easy reception.

Brains work on imageries and it expresses and communicates in neuro-chemical and neuro-electrical language. This physical entity of expression then has to ride on the intangible entity of humanly designed linguistic expressions. The intangible is no match with the tangible in communication system. It is natural that a dualism is engendered the moment we allow tangible entity to enter the virtual skin and flesh of intangible facility. For example, the word ‘joy’ is somehow very differently expressed by our brain in its neuro-chemical language. The probabilities of shades of joy offer multiplicities of meanings, often subjectively competitive and objectively relative.

The trouble does not end here. What brain accepts as expression is then filtered through the mind channels. Brain is the physical pathway, mind is the functional one. Mind has influences of popular culture as well as individual experiences. Therefore, what brain accepts as ‘joy’, the mind interprets it in its own milieu and then, the mind picks up a humanly designed word to ride on, for navigation of communication. This complex and dualistic mechanism of our expressions ensures loads of chaos, conflict and confusion in what we speak and how we accept the spoken or written words.

There is only one way out to avoid this trap and trouble of human communication mechanism. This however, is also not fully protected and exempted from the above-mentioned trouble of dualism. Still, it needs to be said that the only possible way out is innocence. If an expression of words is accepted with primary and uncultured innocence, every word spelt or written automatically gets coated with a smooth and brilliantly navigable gel of compassion. Compassion shields every word from the possibility of even the intangibility of violence and conflict.

This helps even conflicts and confusion of a word become far more affectionately acceptable. All communication needs the navigation of innocence to journey the road to utility and fruition, even when they are loaded with multiplicity of probabilistic shades of expressions. Innocence of compassion is the primeval and cardinal utility. All sub-utilities of expressions automatically fall in this wider utility, if this primary utility is there to hold them tight in their parental embrace.

Why I am saying all this? Is it appropriate, even necessary to speak out all these?

Yes, you are right. I am here to say so many words. As these words are going to be about an idea, which has always been tough to talk about, I humbly, innocently and very compassionately appeal to you to accept this hypothesis and be with me in complete innocence of compassion to receive what I wish to express with the help of humanly designed words…

… Kindly accept the primary utility of innocence of compassion and then do accept the sub-utility of a completely different interpretation of the idea of true womanhood and its right empowerment.

I accept, even this call for innocence may spark off the suspicion of narcissism in my part. However, I again wish to exhort to you that even when all words instinctively stand as culprit of a possible antagonism, this apprehension is won over by the magic of innocence of compassion. My primary appeal is – even if innocence remains a doubtful presupposition in the part of the sayer (me as writer), I simply cannot have any doubt over ubiquitous innocence of compassion in the part of receiver (you as reader) because; this shall defeat the very purpose and utility of the enterprise of saying. I cannot imagine of futility at the very start of an enterprise to create a higher utility.

I am also very much in possession of the deep sense of immensity, this enterprise involves as what I am attempting is a journey of words beyond the archetypal dualism of communication. The domain of human consciousness and cognition is the classical example of the dualism, which our body-mind mechanism engenders, when it comes to the reception of realisms of the world we live in and the cosmos.

Therefore, it is pertinent here to discuss in outlines only as to what ‘Fact’ is and what is ‘Fiction’ in life’s realism? It seems; realism – as a subjective self accepts – is brain’s choice (mostly randomized) of elements from the ambient milieu. Therefore, both ‘Fact & Fiction’ are equally entitled to being Realism. There are both tangible and intangible elements in any milieu. Consciousness (subjective self) as the navigation mapping mechanism, facilitated by the brain, accepts both elements with equal ease.

Interestingly, all tangibles acquire form and content from the intangibles of life and all intangibles attain utility and suitability from tangibles. Therefore, it seems, realism is an eclectic mix of Fact & Fiction. However, it depends on early childhood milieu and initial experiences of a person, whether this mix has more fact or more fiction.

It seems, in contemporary milieu of most popular cultures, both men and women are growingly having a subjective consciousness with more fiction and less fact inclinations. Absolutely no insinuation at the possibility of the superiority of consciousnesses either with more elements of Fiction or Fact. This small talk is meant just to arrive at all shades of possible interpretations, which facilitate the navigation of the enterprise at hand – discussion over womanhood and empowerment.

The idea and idealism of womanhood and empowerment are matters of human consciousness and cognition, which happens to be a domain, where multidimensionality and plurality are in rainbowish colors. That is why it is a rather tough task to get people to be in reception of a shade of colors, which somehow stands beyond the seven colors of popular and contemporary spectrum. Being in complete reception of the enormity of the enterprise, I muster up all humility, innocence and compassion in my part to take the first step. However, I shall also humbly request you to be in complete reception mode of consciousness, which innocently rises above the boundaries of Cognition and Causality of the populist cultural Consciousness.

It is almost impossible for anyone to receive and accept an idea or realism, which is alien to existing popular and contemporary cultural mindset. An idea or realism beyond popular cultural benchmarking and matrices of mind consciousness is a tough enterprise. There is a cardinal rule to the success of every enterprise of life. At the start, every enterprise looks huge and tough. Human mind is not good at seeing far ahead. Therefore, it is always advised to take small steps towards achievement of part of the enterprise and set aim for smaller goals.

Your innocence and honesty is your best preparations to attain your goals. The simple idea is; it is your imagination, which makes you a winner, when you have to make any important decision in life. This imagination puts you above and aloof from the immediate milieus, culture and body-mind instincts, which often either blur your judgment or keep you in a flux. Worse, it makes you drift with it, beyond your conscious control.

You have to use your power of conscious imagination to accept your being and self as someone, not only your body, not only your mind, not only your milieus and not even the interaction between them. You have to accept it as some super consciousness, which observes each of your thought-action-behavior matrices from a position above and aloof from all the dimensions of your consciousness and being. This enables you to hold every emotion, instinct and ideas back for a while, sit over them with an objective and independent super consciousness.

As this super consciousness is a receptive mode facility, you shall be endowed with a power to observe and control all your instinctive and culturally induced thought-action-behavior of action-reaction mode. This is the stage where, you become the conscious decider of what should ideally present yourself with your decision-matrix at any point of time in your life. This is a sure facility for personalizing your own wellness and making them independent of milieus, culture and instincts.

I humbly appeal to you to be in this super consciousness mode, when we deal with new insights in the domain of womanhood and empowerment, as this shall facilitate a reception essential for the utility and fruition of the enterprise. Thanks.


Let This Sink In…

The primeval question of ‘Who I Am’ has always been there but never ever as tumultuously tempestuous as it is now in contemporary competitive milieu. This institution of ‘Identity’ is definitively in the storm of 3Cs – Confusion, Conflict and Chaos as modern social-cultural-economic-political milieus have sort of installed this urge of associations and dissociations deep in populist psyche of people. For women, especially the modern liberated women, who are buoying up and down in ocean of ‘unsettled’ consciousnesses and cognition, the ‘Identity’ issue; the critical ‘Who I Am’ question comes with precariously poised package of 3Ms – Mystic, Magic and Marvel…

Decades back, scientists had warned that future battles shall not be fought in open but within minds of people, over multitude of identities and ethnicity. They insisted to beware of the possibility that as the world would become more complex and multitudinal, people’s perceptions about realism shall become more abstract. That would complicate life and living, resulting in more conflicts and battles within individuals, societies, cultures and outside.

At the very outset, this primary question of ‘Identity’ or ‘Who I Am’ must always be assigned primary and proportionate attention as in modern milieus, the identity issue has been dominating most perceptions and shaping major realism. As abstractions rule the roost in contemporaneous cultures; clear, unemotionally objective and singularly logical understanding and acceptance of the identity-issue is of core importance. For modern women, somehow, it is a challenge, though gender-neutral but more pernicious on their side of the wall…

As a rule, psychology should facilitate clarity and definitiveness, but often, the populist and un-academic psychologies often complicate and confuse things. This core and critical issue of ‘Identity’ meets with the same destiny in the hands of contemporary psychology. Somehow, populist psychology does the reverse – instead of making an understanding unemotionally objective, it itself adds loads of emotionalism and subjective stupidities to an issue or idea at hand. Identity issue is worst hit.

Here, along with the issue of ‘Identity’, there is another core idea and idealism of ‘Personality’, which modern women must deal with unemotional and neutral consciousness and cognition. The populist psychologies may not wish it to be like this but somehow, there is this huge burden on every woman as well as man to assign high discretion for distinction between ‘Identity’ and ‘Personality’. Let us talk about it…

As against the entity of ‘Identity’, which engenders the critical question of ‘Who I Am’, the core idea and idealism of ‘Personality’ shapes up the more important and beneficial question of ‘How I Am’. Often, we hate to accept it but the reality is that this ‘I’ itself is the biggest mystery of humanity and from birth to death, this ‘I’ stands as primary culprit of all stupidities of life and living. And as if, this was not enough, we have loads of stupidly emotional identities, from our birth to death, which either we are born with or align with. Therefore, this ‘Who I Am’ comes with many identities, which this ‘I’ seldom decides, often subconsciously wears and then gets unconsciously shaped up.

So, years before the ‘Self’ acquires consciousness and personality of any sort, the person born, gets loaded with multitude of identities, the burden of which he or she carries till death. Like, a child is born an American, a girl, a white, a Californian, a certain baseball team supporter as her dad is, a Christian, etc. Much later, may be 12-15 years from the birth, this girl shall evolve to have the beginning of her own personality making initiatives, which shall design the idea of ‘How She Is’; but already, the idea of ‘Who She Is’ has shaped her subconscious and unconscious mind, as she is born with a certain package of identities.

Almost always, this question of ‘How I Am’ is more important and more related to our overall wellness and personal excellence than this question of ‘Who I Am’. The personality issue is more crucial and critical for wellness than identity. This we all need to see, understand and accept. Who cares if I am an American or African, if I am white or black? However, it is concern for all and also primarily for self if I am good, right, amiable and compassionate. Yes, being a white or black or brown may have different social meaning and even benefits or loss for me but then, it surely is not ‘mine’ as I have definitively not done anything to deserve it or not deserve it…!

Very interestingly, as against the populist notion, the idea and idealism of ‘Empowerment’ is about ‘Unlearning’ the stupidities of ‘Identities’, which get sedimented in our subconscious and unconscious mind layers, since we are born with them or get associated with them, following or rather aping the populist perceptions and trends. Empowerment is about ‘I’ and this ‘I’ is what I decide, that too very consciously and never subconsciously and unconsciously. Often, personality is personal enterprise and its gains, however, identities usually are sort of gratuitous accruals; some sort of freebies…

If I am a woman, it is always ‘I’, which shall decide for me ‘How I Am A Woman’ and not the stupid identities shall decide me. Womanhood may well be a generic identity but what ‘I’ accept ‘womanhood’ and ‘empowerment’ as, is definitively a conscious and judicious enterprise of the ‘power’ or energy, which ‘I’ acquire through personal initiatives.

That is why, a modern empowered woman shall always insist on the question of ‘How I Am’ – the conscious personality positioning. The modern empowered woman shall definitively ‘Unlearn’ the unwanted elements in her generic identity, which unnecessarily colors the question of ‘Who I Am’. No doubt, this identity of ‘Being A Woman’ is a blessing in itself but then, ‘How I Am A Woman’ is the question, which only the conscious mind of a personality-driven woman shall decide.

Interestingly, this very question of ‘Who I Am’ may always have multitude of mutually competing and conflicting answers, bordering abstractions. However, this core question of ‘How I Am’ always has singular and unemotionally objective and logical answer. I may be a man or woman, American or African, White or Black, Rich or Poor, Christian or Buddhist; but I am always a good, right, amicable, honest, sincere and compassionate person, transcending all my generic identities. This shall never change for ‘I’ – my singular constant personality; even if ‘Who I Am’ may get stupidly associated with multitude of battle-inducing identities…


...For Finality Of Fruition

It is not that people await good times, the good times also await good people to come and hoist the potential seeded in the soil of future. Good words also wish for good readers, to be in reception of and be in linearity of the innocent intent, which ride on the shoulders of the words, for the finality of their fruition...


… On Navigation And Expression Of Intent

There has to be a humble admittance – Any word, however well meant and well spelt, is a possible suspect of misinterpretation. There is a simple reason. People are in different consciousnesses and culturally as well as personally inclined to a specific value-summation of utilities. As a writer, it is a huge temptation to take liberties, with not only imaginations but also with the words, as against their common and popular use. Do kindly accept my latitude with language and personal coinages of words, as I understand, many times, they may not conform to popular usages. I share with you whatever is part of my consciousness. All wisdoms say, what stays with you is what sinks in. Wisdom is what we internalize. I share with you whatever I have internalized in my life. This may not be mainstream stuff; but may have utility in some meaningful way. I believe, as a reader, you shall enjoy this novelty and pleasant awkwardness of the writing.



Thanks For Your Magnanimity, The First Chapter Begins...