How to Make People Marvel at You by Ekekere Samuel Ufot - HTML preview

CHAPTER ONE

MOVE FROM WHERE YOU ARE

A man who wants to conquer the world will first have to learn how to make one step out of his room. I learned that over the years. As a student at the university some years back, I always had that belief that there was something in me that I could give the world. I had grown up in an average side of life but I knew I carried potentials. Just as every one person, I had my big dreams or thoughts that flashed through my mind’s thinking system but what I failed to have was the how to getting towards the big dreams.

When my dreams flashed, I could hardly contend with them because they always seemed bigger than me or never looked like me. Frankly, they seemed extraordinary but I loved them anyway because they always made me marvel at the possibilities that my mind could tinker

I am like you. You have all those big thoughts that flash your mind which you are aware has the capacity to catapult you from nobody to a place where you will be looked at in awe if they are to become reality. Yes, you don’t see how it could come through but you’ve seen yourself there. Just know you can get there.

It’s more than just thinking, the first act that must follow your desire is to move or make a deliberate step towards that vision or dream.

No matter how one desires to get big things done, big things can only be done when one starts with each small thing that characterizes the big whole. Little drops make an ocean. A hundred story building isn’t built in a day, it starts with the initial acts of surveying digging, foundation laying, building the first floor, second and so on.

Many times there is a temptation to feel that we just have to jump into our dreams almost immediately. Isn’t impossible though but the reality of life is that it doesn’t work that way. It’s like trying to woo a lady. You may fancy her and see her as often in your dream line but you will have to step up to her and tell her “can we keep a date?” you will need to make a deliberate effort towards her.

The marvel in you only arrives when you are willing to break out from that normal life that you have being used to. Guess what? The normal life is so tempting that it just keeps you there where you are. I think of those spectators who watch from the stands of a football stadium as football teams play. They choose to become fans and call themselves the fans club or supporters club. Many famous footballers will tell you they once watched from the stands as children while their darling teams played and caught the flame to join the youth side of the club from the stands. Today they are fans favorites. The difference between footballers and the spectators is movement. The footballers chose to move.

The marvelous life is a life that’s far up there from where everybody is. It will require that you move and move up. It is a life that attracts attention, could be sensual, carry some aesthetics or evolve some enormous light and attraction. You are where you are but where you bare isn’t where you should be.

Everyone is gifted in his calling. There is some individual difference bestowed upon everyone by God. Every doctor may be a doctor but it is the strategic difference bestowed by God that makes a doctor out of doctors. These doctors become specialists, well revered. These doctors choose to live the crowd of other doctors behind to find strength from which they could shine.

Movement requires some very cautious action, a direction, and the goal. It’s often the goal that comes first. The goal is to be the attention grabbing marvel for others to see and want to be like. The goal has a path to be taken. The woman who wants to become the world’s best dancer will have to join a dancing school where she receives training to become a dance. You don’t just become the best over a night dream. You dream the goal and then walk the path to the goal. This walk is the movement.

The man who wants to be a marvel does not move everywhere. He moves in a certain direction. He does not try to

• Maneuver his way through deceit. Many persons make movements in life that are often full of deceit, deception, and criminality. The man who desires to be a marvel learns that it does not pay to try maneuvering steps when one has to make straight on decisions.
• Act in such a way as to accept his position as the final position. He does not conclude that it is finished. He looks out for possibilities and strives to beat the desire to remain at on position for so long.
• Revolve around a place. He strives to keep moving unrestricted and unbounded towards his destination. He knows that if he chooses to revolve, he would be heading nowhere. He’d rather break away from the attractive forces of his present center and break away into uncommon possibilities.
• Validate his present position as the best. It has never been the best and it will never be. He looks away from his present position and looks up to that one that he knows has the capacity to attract people to him and make him the cynosure of all eyes.
• Excel at being average. No matter how much one strives at being average, the average life is the average life and it can never be better than it. Excellence is the high grade that must be the pursuit of the high-minded marvel attracting man.
• Lean on what he has already known. Too many persons are straight at what they know already. What they know has kept them on the average lane. The good news, however, is that to become a marvel, you need new knowledge. You need to know through books, audios, and videos, seminars, schooling programs etc.

People marvel at people who know when to move and who have decided to move in spite of the challenges that stand against them not moving. Moving is a battle against the natural forces of wind and inertia. Of note is the fact that the earth has a strong gravitational pull and resultant force from the ground that strives to keep the foot on the ground.

Societal inertia coupled with environmental and family challenges have the capacity to keep a successful marvel at a spot. It’s always an ordeal to break away from them. They cage the man who wants to become a marvel and pushes him to incapacitation.

To move you will have to

Make concrete plans that will enable you to break away from your cage or room. Society and family could be entangling. If you don’t plant to break, you may not be able to make the break.

Overtly show your desire to step out of your closet. The man in the prison who craves for a free life will often hit the gate of the prison to show his discontent till he gets the attention of the prison warder.

View the life outside that you desire to move into. The clearer you see the world beyond you, the chances increases of the possibilities of you making through with the big breakaway.

Exercise your belief to get out and act in that direction. You must act your resolve with confidence. You must act like you are there already and begin to speak like you have broken away and then the big opportunity will arrive.

People will marvel at those who had why and a where to move. Because nobody was born a genius, everyone will have to take certain coded steps. Everyone learns to move, it’s just that some persons choose to continue moving all their lives. These persons refuse to remain stagnant. Others choose to move and stop sometimes when they should have entered into that place of acclaim to become the marvel.

Consistently, the man who wants people to marvel at him keeps moving. He changes his endpoint every time to ensure he always has something new to pursue. His goals change from time to time immediately one goal is accomplished. This is because he has to consistently be on the move. Only those with new feverish goals keep moving.

You cannot afford to remain where you are. If you’ve reached one level, there is a higher level to shoot into. Just keep moving.