Whether we want to admit it or not, human beings are to a large
degree victims of our genetic programming. No matter what a woman
says or how civilized, cultured or progressive she tries to be, she has
very specific evolutionary characteristics that she’s attracted to. This
is great news for us because all we have to do is embrace those
characteristics and we’ll have women falling all over us. A major
character trait that females of all species are programmed to be
attracted to is status. In the animal kingdom females are told by
Mother Nature to mate with the dominant males of her species. It is
no different for human beings. When female animals go into heat,
they search out the strongest males to mate with in order to preserve
the race and create strong offspring. When a woman feels excited
and wild over a guy she’s feeling the same genetically programmed
response that an animal feels when it goes into heat. She can’t help
these feelings. The female animal in nature goes for the seemingly
unattainable, powerful, untamable male. No matter what she says or how much she tries to fight these instincts it’s simply factual that they
exist inside her. All of this information is encoded in her genetic
structure.
Women need to feel this wild, uncontrollable attraction. They don’t
logically choose it – they feel it or not. You can buy her flowers for the
next ten years and it won’t matter unless you make her FEEL this
attraction to you. Women don’t care how things work; they care how
things make them feel. In all of the romance novels and soap operas
women have been devouring since they were kids, the leading males
are always untamable, strong men who sweep women off their feet.
This is the quality that many “jerks” have. Women don’t like the fact
that the guy is actually a jerk – it’s just that jerks have a tendency to
have more of this primal, uncontrollable dominance that the weaker,
“nice” guys don’t have. They can’t help it fellas. They are simply
responding to Mother Nature. Estrogen is a drug that induces feeling.
It makes women want and need to feel everything. Testosterone is a
hormone of aggression/achievement and dominance. The sooner we
realize and accept these facts, the easier time we’ll have
understanding the dating world. So what exactly are some of these traits that she’s genetically
programmed to desire?
Physical Strength
Women are genetically programmed to desire a physically strong
man. Now don’t go running off to buy steroids because this doesn’t
necessarily mean that she wants a guy like the incredible Hulk. In fact
when a guy gets too huge muscularly many women see that as a
compensation for other weaknesses. What they do desire is a fit man,
who walks with his head up high, with his shoulders back, showing
complete confidence. I will teach you many techniques in the book
that will make women see you as a physically strong creature.
Ambition
Ambition is a great attribute to have because it helps women
rationalize why they’d be with a “weaker” man. Major ambition is
usually enough to tell a woman that at some point soon, you’ll be the
dominant male she’s looking for and as long as she has the patience
to wait, she’ll give you a chance. I remember watching Jerry Maguire listening to Renee Zellweger say, “I love him for the man he almost
is” and thinking “What a bitch. What’s wrong with the man he is right
now”. Then I realized that she couldn’t help it. It was her genetic
programming that wanted him to be the strongest man he could be.
Yes I know it’s just a movie but it’s a perfect example of how women
think. His ambition to be the strong male was enough to keep her
interested. Another reason that ambition is so attractive is because
women are programmed to look for the instinct in you that wants to
be dominant. Most men assume that they need to have lots of money
and power to get women when in fact; you don’t need to be rich or
“powerful” right now to attract women. Women are equally as
attracted to the trait in you that desires to get rich, powerful and
successful.
Modesty
Never be blatantly boastful. Once you develop a real self-confidence
it will shine through in your actions. Any man that feels the need to
talk about how great he is in bed or what a great athlete he is will
seem weak. Women have a built in radar that let’s them spot the
difference between real and fake confidence. Instead show with your actions what an amazing person you are and always be humble
about it. I will teach you in this book how to always appear humble
while secretly sneaking in brags in a way that women can’t detect
them.
These are just a few of the characteristics that women are genetically
programmed to desire. Let me stop the list here and move on the
next chapter where I’ll begin to tell you how to start making these qualities a part of your very being.