People often come to us saying they just don’t know what to talk about anymore. Not knowing what to say strains their phone calls which then causes arguments and a lot of bad feelings about their relationship in general. Keeping that spark can be hard to do once a relationship’s newness has worn off.
Long distance couples use the phone a lot and/or have written hundreds of emails. What more can there possibly be to talk about? I can assure you, that there are things you don’t know about your partner, and you just haven’t realized it yet.
Frank and I were once in a situation where we didn’t have anything to talk about. Phone calls were dreaded because we didn’t know what to say, except for the usual things going on in our lives. We went from having interesting, intellectual conversations and debates, to having mind-numbing, boring talk.
A desperate move, I bought an e-book, called 1000 Questions for Couples, in the hopes it would get us out of this conversation slump we were in. Much to my surprise, it actually helped tremendously. Much more than I expected it would. Frank loved being on the phone with me again, and vice versa. I bought it about a year ago, and I still open it up every once in a while when we’re bored on the phone. It never disappoints! One question might give us an hour of conversation. It wasn’t free, but it was definitely a good investment that I am thankful I made for our relationship.