I’ve got this little theory about dating. I believe we need to be content and happy with ourselves, clear on where we’re going and how to get there, before we can truly be successful at dating.
In fact, I recommend not going on dates at all if: a.) you’re in a state of indecision or personal crisis, or b.) you’re not looking for a long- term relationship.
“Aw, c’mon!” some of you say. “What’s wrong with going on dates while I’m figuring out what to do with my life? It’s just dating.” And others might say, “Look, I’m just in it for fun. I’m young / gorgeous / free, and I just want a hot date. What’s wrong with that?”
Well, I’m betting 99.9% of you singles who are in the
dating game aren’t in it just for kicks. Let’s be honest: whether you’re serious or just playing, you’re all harboring secret hopes of finding true, everlasting love.
Once you are solid with what you want in life, and what type of person would complement you perfectly, you’ll have the wisdom to discern who would make suitable partners and who wouldn’t.
You will radiate a sense of peace and confidence. Other people will sense this immediately and will find you attractive. You can then successfully attract or pursue the people you want.