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4. Inhale deeply and slowly through your nose and then exhale slowly through your mouth. With your eyes still rolled up, begin to focus on your breathing.

5. Continue to take deep breaths in and out for up to a minute (or more if needed) until you notice your body becoming very relaxed and settled.

(Breathing in this way, with your eyes rolled up, will quickly put you into the

"alpha state" of consciousness - a state that is ideal for creative visualization.) 6. Next, think of a time/incident from your past where you were extremely happy. It could be a time when your peers praised you, when you received an award of some sort, or even a time when you fell in love. Next, relive this memory as vividly as you can, using all your senses. Try to get in touch with that feeling again. Hear what you heard. See what you saw. FEEL what you felt.

Remember the voices that were around you and what they were saying. Recall anything else that your senses were taking in - the smell, touch, etc. Make your vision as clear, vivid, crisp as possible. (If you're not able to do it very clearly at first, it's all right. Each time you relive that memory it will become easier, and clearer and more alive.)

NOTE: It is extremely important that you DO NOT pull out a memory that will trigger a negative emotion. If you can't think of a happy memory, you may want to skip this step. Although I strongly recommend that you try really hard to find a happy memory to recall. Here's why...

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The point of Step 6 is to get your mind and your body into a 'happy' state.

Because, once you're in a truly happy place in your mind, we are going to "link"

your visualization to that emotion. This will energize your visualization beyond belief and cause it to manifest more powerfully and quickly. The more strongly you can relive your past happy memory, the more energized your vision will become.

7. Once you're in touch with that happy experience from the past and are able to strongly feel joy and happiness, now is the time to start creating the vision of what you want to happen in the future. Something you would like to have, do, or be in the future.

This is where most people lose it because they have not been taught how to visualize correctly. Please pay attention to the following...

When you're visualizing your future, you have to see it as being real "right now"

- in the "present," as if you already have it right now. Imagine that your vision is real and that it has already happened. See yourself enjoying whatever it is that you want created.

The next important aspect of visualization that most people do incorrectly is...they don't put themselves "in the picture." Instead, they see themselves doing/enjoying the vision as if they're watching a movie of themselves. This is not the best way to visualize. Instead of watching a 'movie' of yourself enjoying what you want, put yourself in the picture. You're not an outsider or an observer anymore. Instead, you're experiencing the vision with your whole body and your senses.

For example, if you want a new car, don't visualize a movie of yourself in the new car. Instead, put yourself "inside" the car so that you can see the steering wheel in front of you and feel the seat on your back. Be in the picture! Breathe in the "new car smell." Feel the grip of the steering wheel in your hands.

If it's a new house that you want, imagine that you're inside that new house right now. See yourself lying in the new bed of your new house instead of where you're laying right now. Really get in touch with the feeling and imagine what it would be like to actually have it "right now." Be in the moment. Live it right now, as if it has already happened.

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If it's money that you want, imagine piles and piles of currency all over the bed, all over your body, maybe even falling to the ground from the edges of the bed.

Imagine the weight of the money on top of your body. Remember to get all of your senses involved. Imagine yourself touching the money with your hands and feeling how it feels against your fingers. Smell what that newly printed money smells like.

And, remember to feel really happy and grateful - just as you would feel if you really had this money in your hands right now.

That's the key to effective visualization. See it in the present, as if it has already happened. And be in the picture - involve all your senses as vividly as you can.

8. This next step may seem a little weird to some people, especially if they haven't studied success and mind power before. But, do it anyway since it is a very important step and should not be missed.

After you have enjoyed being in the vision that you want to create, open your eyes and say the following words...

"I now allow myself to have (fill in what you want here)! It is done! And so it is."

This may seem silly at first but is VERY important, because it allows you to

"release" your vision out to the universe to get created.

If you don't release your vision as outlined above, you'll be attached to it and that will interfere with the creative process. As you say those words, let go of all worry, fear, doubt, disbelief, and concern. Don't worry about when or how it will get created. Just trust in the creative force of the universe and release your vision to it. And then, go on about your daily activities and don't think about your vision much.

Be sure to end your visualization each time with this step.

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This step is similar to planting a seed in the ground and then walking away. If you keep digging up the seed to see if it germinated yet, you'll kill it. Which is why you have to release it and allow the soil to do its job.

If you continue to wonder or worry or doubt the visualization as you go about your day, you will send the wrong message to your subconscious mind...that you don't really believe that it is possible. This will negate the creative process, and you don't want that.

That's it!

Do your visualization as described in the above steps at least once a day. Twice would be ideal. First thing in the morning, as soon as you get up, and last thing at night right before you go to bed are the best times to do this since your mind is already in a very receptive state.

Doing it before you go to bed will ensure that your subconscious continues to work on it all throughout the night. If you wake up in the middle of the night, you can always try to get in touch with that same feeling again if you want. It's not necessary but it won't hurt.

One last thing...

The key to creative visualization is consistency. Do this process daily, if at all possible.

People often ask me how long they should continue to do this process. My answer? Until you get the result!

Some people get results in as little as a few weeks. For others, it takes longer.

The more consistent you are and the more emotionally charged you can make the visualization (with positive feelings,) the better it will work.

And, please, don't give up after a week or two, or even a month or two, ok? It only requires a few minutes of your time and the results can be life changing. So, do use this power that you have inside of you to change your life for the better.

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Very few people are happy with their lives, very few people have all the things that they'd like to have. And it's no coincidence that very few people use this power that they have at their disposal; fewer even know that it exists.

You have this creative power at your fingertips now. Take full advantage of it.

May all your great visions turn into your daily living, breathing reality!


Bryan Kumar

Bryan is the author of several books. His latest, at this writing, is called:

“Money and Power an Interview with Allen Says”

It is an absolutely awesome interview with Allen Says, the man who created the Internet Warriors and has made millions from believing that he can.

Remember, earlier what I said about having your dream car?

You have the power. Visualize it, smell it, feel the upholstery, picture getting into it. See the admiration in the eyes of someone watching you park the car. Put the key in the lock. Imagine the color, and how you feel when you know it is yours.

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Chapter 15 Inspirational Quotes

"People are like stained-glass windows.

They sparkle and shine when the sun is out.

But, when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within."

Elizabeth Kübler-Ross

"I keep my ideals, because in spite of everything, I still believe that people are really good at heart. "

Anne Frank

"There are two lasting bequests we can give our children: One is roots. The other is wings.

Hodding Carter, Jr."

"The important thing is not to stop questioning."

Albert Einstein

"Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference."

Author Unknown

“We do not stop playing because we grow old. We grow old because we stop playing!”

Benjamin Franklin

“Nothing is particularly hard if you divide it into small jobs.”

Henry Ford

“Whenever you are asked if you can do a job, tell 'em, "Certainly I can!" and get busy and find out how to do it.”

Theodore Roosevelt

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”Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great ones make you feel that you too, can become great.”

Mark Twain

“If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always gotten.”

Jim Rohn

“If you really want to do something, you'll find a way; if you don't, you'll find an excuse.”

Author Unknown

"I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody." Bill Cosby

"The past does not equal the future." Anthony Robbins

"Be not afraid of greatness; some are born great, some achieve greatness, and some have greatness thrust upon them."

William Shakespeare

"Show me a person who has never made a mistake and I'll show you somebody who has never achieved much."

Joan Collins

"If you really want something, you can figure out how to make it happen."


"There is no sense in being pessimistic. It would not work anyway."


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There are no such things as limits to growth, because there are no limits on the human capacity for intelligence, imagination and wonder."

Ronald Reagan

"Let no one come to you without leaving better and happier."

Mother Teresa

"Examine what you believe to be impossible, then change your belief."

Dr. Wayne Dyer

"Sometimes when I get up in the morning, I feel very peculiar. I feel like I've just got to bite a cat! I feel like if I don't bite a cat before sundown, I'll go crazy! But then I just take a deep breath and forget about it. That's what is known as real maturity." Snoopy

You can use inspirational quotes and put them on your wall, bulletin board, or your refrigerator to keep your mind with positive thoughts.

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Chapter 16 How to Get What You Want

out of Life

This is simply a lot that I have gathered into this book and now you can see how it all can unfold for you.


Take a look at yourself - inside and out. Where do you live, what job do you have, how do you relate to your friends and family? What interests do you pursue, what adventures do you have?

What do you truly want from life? Do you want wealth and success, happiness and peace of mind? Do you want a family and a yard, a yacht or a sports car?

Where are you going? Do you have a particular goal or are you just wandering through life?

You can accomplish anything you want in life - that's true. Once you have a particular goal, you can fulfill that desire by straightforward commitment and total conviction.

But what if you don't know what you want? Maybe your goals are small ones -

like losing some weight, or buying a new car. Maybe it is getting a promotion of finding a mate. Whether you want a bigger apartment or want to be a corporation president, any avenue of prosperity and achievement is open to you if it is truly what you want.

No goal is too small; no dream is too big. Even if you aren't clear on your desires, you can tap into your subconscious mind to get the answers and to find the paths to success.

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Can you change your life - do you want to? Can you picture yourself as your most perfect image of accomplishment? How does it feel? If you have the desire to attain goals, the commitment to follow through and the ability to creatively imagine yourself in the position you dream of, you are more than halfway there.

The most successful leaders and artists throughout history have followed specific paths and attained their hearts' desires. Keep an open mind and a hopeful outlook - then change your thinking. Put on the clothes of success. Act as though you already have accomplished your desires - then let the reality catch up.


Take a choice: money, health, physical energy, beauty, creativity, recognition, power, adventure, contentment, achievement, self-expression, authority, love, peace of mind, or enlightenment. Would you like any of these? If you are like most people today, you probably want ALL of these.

But if you search your true desires, you might find that there are a few things you want more than others, and, if you keep going in your search, you'll find one desire that has been with you your whole lifetime and is the one path you need to follow.

Although money is the obvious desire, it is usually not the final goal. Indeed, money can, and does buy happiness - up to a point. Once you have enough money to be financially secure or to purchase the material objects you want, the true desire might be something else.

Love is the goal of every person's heart. Whether it is love of a mate, or a family, or respect and recognition from peers and fellow workers, love is the ageless pursuit. The mystics say that love is the sole purpose of life- to give love and to find it.

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attained until they complete some creative tasks or achieve certain heights in business.

Many people seek the authority that comes with a good position in a job. Along with that can come recognition and fame. Although you may want the money that is associated with high management levels, many people simply seek that satisfaction of working from the inner circles.

The goal of every person regardless of background and material desires is health.

A sound body is the gift that will get you to the other goals. Even a new diet and exercise plan can give you more energy - the energy you'll need to accomplish success.

Adventure and travel is a driving force for many people. They may seek jobs that involve travel, or they may be looking forward to taking time off to visit the exotic ports and see the other side of the world. If you don't want a long journey, perhaps you'd just like a few weeks in a sunny resort or the luxury of a summer and winter vacation each year.

Then there is creativity and self-expression. What about the book you're going to write or the watercolor class you'd like to take? Creative expression is a wonderful inner release that boosts confidence and gives you something to accomplish. Finally, regardless of wealth and health, expression and love, everyone is looking for peace of mind. That's not to say emptiness of mind, but to be rid of petty worries and confusion, to be finished with fears and live in total awareness. It surely is the ultimate lifetime goal.


Now is the time to evaluate your life and your desires. Go ahead and test yourself - nobody's looking. Try to find out what your inner desires really are.

Once you know, you can formulate a plan of action, and then achieve your goals.

Right now, write down three things you want. Don't spend time thinking about them - just write them down. You may be surprised at what you want. Can you see any relation to the types of desires most sought for?

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What accomplishment are you most proud of? What makes you happy - happy enough to be content, to feel totally relaxed, and to slide back with a smile on your face?

Without dwelling on failures, mistakes, or past ill feelings, quickly list the important accomplishments or your life. Think about the places you went to, the relationships you encountered, and the education you received. Consider your job changes and positions, and the achievements related to work.

Put a star next to the most important accomplishments of your life. Is there any correlation with the list of the three things you want most?


Before you go any further with your life, make a list for your future. Write it down - don't just think it. What would you like to accomplish in the next ten years? Would it be a new house, a high-paying position, a home in a new city, or a trip around the world?

Break your list down into those things you'd like to accomplish in the next five years. Then make one further division into the next six months. What can you do in the next few months to further you towards your long-term goals?


My most important desires are:

In my lifetime, the most important things I've accomplished: If I looked back on my lifetime in 20 years, I'd like to have accomplished: Within 10 years, I'd like to achieve:

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Within 5 years, I'd like to achieve:

In the next six months to a year, these are the things I'm going to do to work towards by goals:

Regardless of your family commitments or your personal relationships and regardless of your business enterprises or any false sense of achievement, what do you really want?

Give yourself credit for past accomplishments, and give yourself credit for your future achievements. You can and will attain all your goals, both long-term and short-term if you approach them in a step-by-step fashion and if you believe that they are worthwhile for you.


Although you can be considerate of your environment and all the people in it, first consider yourself. You must consider your well-being, your happiness, your success. Make a pact with yourself right now that you will achieve your goals, and make them realistic to reach. Then, one by one, make your own life the success it deserves.


An important step in achieving goals is to be able to relax. You'll get nowhere if your body and mind are nervous and jittery and jumping from one place or idea to another. In order to focus on your goal, you must center your being.

Relaxation is the balance of the mental, spiritual and physical aspects of yourself.

Set aside time each day for deep relaxation - not sleep, but relaxation. The state of deep relaxation is a state of meditation. There are no thoughts in your mind.

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circulates amply throughout every part of your body. You drift through space, ever towards your true destiny.

Exercise or sports is a good way to get into relaxation. The body needs physical stimulation to pump blood into all its extremities, and to give the heart a good workout. Exercise is a wonderful way to let the mind relax, as you place your thoughts on the way your body moves. For many people, sports and exercise are enjoyable ways to feel alive, youthful, and fulfilled.

Then take time to relax. Lie down on your back with your arms out, palms up.

Your feet should be about two feet about. You might clench your muscles first.

Then relax them. Allow your thoughts to drift, but don't get caught in them.

Watch them go by, as if they belong to somebody else.

If you have a special problem, tuck that in the back of your mind - don't dwell on it up front. Let yourself and your emotions go. Breathe out the negative feelings and emotions; breathe in positive, life-giving air. Float freely. Relax. ASSUME

THE BEST. Expect to achieve; expect to accomplish your desires; expect to win. Accept less, but push on to attain more. The higher your goals, the further you'll go. Don't go for less than your full potential. Shoot for the universe. You owe yourself nothing less.

You have a right to be happy. You have the means to be successful. You can succeed in what you desire.

Always keep in mind the fact that you are in transit, attaining your goals, moving through life as though you are an actor and the setting is a stage.

Keep your thoughts firmly planted on prosperity, good fortune and lucky breaks.

Assume that you will, in fact, nearly have accomplished your goals. It is with that attitude that successful people achieve.


The power to accomplish anything you want is within you, but it will not happen if you are not tuned into your true desires. Don't fool yourself into compromising for less than a complete goal. If you want to be an artist, you may not be the world's most famous artist, but if you have that inclination, you will be Copyright © 2003 Teresa King

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an artist. If you want to succeed in business, you may not be another financier/mega-millionaire, but you will succeed in your endeavors.

Most people need accomplishment feed back, after all, what's so great about achieving something if nobody cares? It's also important to receive that recognition and feel that love.

Set goals that you can achieve. Divide them into little tidbits that you can accomplish every day, every month, every year. Set your goals for success.

Reap the rewards constantly - each step of the way. Pat yourself on the back for a job well done then move on. Start immediately to accomplish the goals you have set. In fact, give yourself a task that you can finish by tomorrow. Think of yourself as a success in your endeavors. Dwell on the idea that you are compelled to accomplish your goals, and live and breathe them until you have them.

Can you see yourself a year from now, having achieved a few goals? Can you make the decision and commitment to become successful in your desires? Then you have the potential to accomplish anything you want.


Visualize being as a success in your field of endeavor is the inside-tip in accomplishing anything you want. If you can specifically imagine being the person you want to become, you will attain that reality.

Forgive yourself. Just as you would another person, tell yourself that it's okay for all those mistakes, or the should-haves that keep popping up in your mind.

Don't dwell on the past and get blocked by events from long ago.

Let go of fears and anxieties. Although it certainly is easier said than done, learn to change negative thoughts into a positive action. Are you afraid of poverty -

that you'll never make ends meet, or never buy that house, or be destitute once you stop working? Then turn that into the positive goal of financial security.

Do people make you anxious? Maybe you feel inferior, not as good as others.

Everybody has feelings of inadequacy. Just turn them around into positive goals.

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You may be paralyzed by the thoughts that you are unattractive. It is your thoughts that make it a reality. Change your modes of behavior and you will make friends. In most cases, it is your own negative thoughts that cause you to stay stuck in the place you're currently in. Keep moving. Take the risks. You may need to change your job, or move to another city. You might take up a sport or hobby. Become active in your life - participate, and you will grow into the image you see for yourself.


Perhaps the most sought-after goal in our present society is success in business.

Whether you want to be promoted into high paying management positions, or wish to start your own independent enterprise - knowledge of the business world is important.

As you plan a course of action towards accomplishing your goal, keep in mind the small goals that put you closer to the end, and be prepared to change often.

You may need to change companies, or take the opportunities in other departments as those positions open.

Create an aura of success around you. People who are successful dress that way.

Even if you're not in a high-income bracket, act as though you have already achieved - without being egotistical or overspending.

Develop an expertise in an area. Don't keep special information to yourself, but be quick to learn all there is about your position and the tasks surrounding getting that job done. Capitalize on your strengths, and let others help you develop your weaknesses into assets.

Get to know the people in the company and the people in the industry. Read all the trade journals and magazines relating to your company. Make appointments with people who are successful in your field and learn from them.

You need to have a total commitment to succeed in business. Most people who make it to the executive boardroom put in long hours, often at the sacrifice of everything else. Regardless of the physical effort involved, you must mentally be engrossed in your business and the company enterprises.

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In order to help yourself develop fully, you might seek a mentor, someone who will offer you time and teach you the ropes. This person usually is someone who believes in your ability, someone who you can develop a mutually beneficial business relationship with.

Some people become friendly with all their co-workers and find that is a way to advance. But don't try to be extroverted if it's not real to you. Most people who successfully run their own businesses are individuals who like to work alone.

As you increase your activities and accomplishments, you increase your potential to reach higher. The more you achieve, the more confidence you develop to achieve more. You don't have to be the same as everyone else and fit like a vegetable in a patch. Be unique, different. Capitalize on your own self-image.

Don't fall victim to self-consciousness. Trust your intuition. Hunches and inner feelings usually are the best route to travel, regardless of what seems to be the logical choice. Make decisions quickly and with firmness. A true leader will handle these responsibilities efficiently - that's what makes you different and why you'll rise to the top.

Be persistent in attaining your goals, but be open and sincere.

If you are having personal difficulties with any co-workers, try to know more about these people from a personal angle. Be interested in them and their accomplishments and goals. You might be able to turn opposition into friendship.

Above all, use your integrity. If the goal is not worthy of your inner desires, it will be hard to attain. If your methods are not sincere, you will receive opposition. If your actions are not honest, you will suffer the consequences.

Turn all negative qualities into positive aspects - then watch yourself achieve.


Many people want money as a primary goal. There certainly is nothing wrong with your desire for money. But first, be sure that your true goal is money. Can you live, breathe, eat, and sleep money? Do you dream about money, and want it more than anything?

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For true money-seekers, you must be your own boss. The great money makers all started and ran their own businesses. And, even though it seems as though all the good ideas have already been taken, there are plenty out there.

The secret of the wealthiest people is to find a special need and fill it. Like quick-food chains; like supermarkets; like electronic games. Whether you invent a new toy or gadget, or see a spot to market special items in a new way, the world is open to true entrepreneurs, and they do make it.


Almost any goal you choose - whether riches and material abundance or spiritual attainment - requires learning. How much education do you have? Do you want more? Perhaps your goal is to get another degree or to secure a special license.

There are countless opportunities to learn more about your own industry or to learn about a new skill. Not only do you have the colleges and universities, but there are many trade schools, correspondence schools, and special groups that teach skills - at very reasonable prices.


What do you need to know to get to where you want to be? You may not need a degree, but the actual experience. So you'd need to change jobs or accept a part-time job at night to develop your skills.

More than ever, people are leaving their present occupations to learn a new trade and then starting at the bottom again to be happy in their work. Maybe you'll need to put in extra hours at work now so that you can save money to take the time off next year.

Even though most entry-level positions are offered to the younger people, you can find many companies willing to give you a chance to change your occupation. Many times you might find an older master willing to apprentice you to learn the skill or trade.

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criticism from teachers and fellow students. Read everything you can study well.

It is your developing expertise that will get you ahead and closer to your goal.

It's always a good time to learn more. Even if you are happy in your job, expanding yourself through education is a very rewarding activity. Take some dancing or tennis, gourmet cooking or sculpture lessons. Any activity that is taught and shared by many enthusiasts will do just fine, provided you are interested in that activity.


Consider the most important things you need to accomplish. These are high priorities. Then think about those things that seem to take up a lot of time and get you nowhere. Those are the low priorities.

Understand what's important to achieve and do those things first. It's better for you to stack those low priorities somewhere else and finish the important material than to spend time clearing your desk to get down to the essential things.

You'll be noticed more quickly for the big things you achieve than for keeping paper flowing. Don't let co-workers waste your time with chitchat if you've got things to accomplish. After work or during your hour for lunch, is the time for chitchat.

Handle paper once; decide the action and finish with it. Keep interruptions to a minimum and delegate responsibilities. Although you'd like to believe you're indispensable to the job and you are the only one to take care of many things, you can teach someone else and move on to your own goal achievements.


What are you waiting for? Few opportunities are thrown at you; you have to create the right positions and situations to move up. Make lists of things you want to accomplish and do them.

If you're busy in an office situation, make daily lists and reward yourself with praise upon completion. Catch yourself achieving.

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Concentrate on what you're doing and do one thing at a time, but do it quickly and handle the next thing. Be efficient with telephone calls, maybe taking them at appointed times or calling back at your convenience.

Don't try to look busy. Be busy. Your superiors will know what you accomplish.

Be busy doing important things rather than writing about what you've done.

Take the time for physical exercise. It will energize you - not take away from your effectiveness. It relaxes your mind and stimulates your capacity to achieve.


An inner core of all accomplishment is the positive energy from the subconscious. If your subconscious mind has tapped into your goal and believes it is good for you, your energies will direct you towards that goal.

You can consciously create circumstances and conditions of environment and physical presence, but it is that level behind the outwardly physical that directs your true being. When the subconscious mind accepts an idea, the inner power will complete it.

That's why you can accomplish anything you want - by creating all outward manifestations to trigger your subconscious into action. As you decide on your goals and write them down, repeat them twice a day out loud. This in essence brings it to the inner level.

When you think about your goals and desires, the subconscious hears it. So direct your energies - both outer and inner - to your goal with one-pointed devotion. In that way, you can control your destiny.

In order to connect to your inner self, relax - let your thoughts go. Feel that part within you that actually makes the decisions - the reflexes, the instincts, the intuition and hunches. Let your mind be quiet from its usual chatter.

Some people present problems to their inner consciousness by asking themselves a question before they fall asleep. Often the answer is in their minds when they wake up.

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Clarity rids confusion. If you find you're filled with worries and anxieties, spend the time to think them through. Approach them logically, considering the consequences of all possible actions. When you've made a decision, follow through and don't agonize over what-ifs.

Everybody has creative potential - you don't have to be an artist to be creative.

Each moment of the day is creating your own self, becoming your true inner person.

Let yourself look within. Release the handicaps of fear and anxiety - even for a moment. You'll be relaxed and refreshed.


It is constant repetition of the goal and the belief that you can attain it.

It’s those techniques above, which have been used by great inventors, financiers, business people, political figures and enlightened beings.

Never dwell on self-criticism or what you think are your inadequacies. Instead, repeat your goals and the qualities that will make you successful.

Write out your outstanding goal. In a few words, describe what you want to attain. Then write what you will do to achieve that. What energies and efforts will you trade for that success?

Give yourself a specific date to accomplish this goal, and specific times to carry out the interim steps. Put this paper or note card in a visible place - such as taped to the mirrors - so you can review it and repeat it at least twice a day.

It is those people who convince themselves that they are failures, and successful people believe that they will rise to the top and will achieve their goals. Believe in yourself. You are everything worth believing in.


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Form the habit of accomplishment. With every step you take and every decision you make, bring yourself closer to your goals. Walk through your life with this sense of direction and they will come to you.

Develop self-confidence and esteem. Assert yourself and acquire all the excellent qualities and traits you admire most. What is your ultimate goal? How do you see yourself? Be specific. Visualize the place you live in - the rooms, the paintings on the walls, the furniture and the swimming pool. Consider the family situation and financial stability. Think about the place you'll be living in.

Then look at yourself. What clothes are you wearing and what do you look like?

Consider your physique, your hair, and the condition of your body.

Then think about the things you do. What sports do you play, what groups do you belong to?

As if you've already accomplished your desires, look back and see what you did to get to where you are. Think about the classes you took, the jobs you worked at, and the places you moved to. Think about the places you've traveled to and the friends you've made.

Be comfortable with your new self-image. Put it on for size and change your fantasy to adjust perfectly to you. Why don't you live as though you're already there? What's stopping you from becoming the person you are totally capable of becoming?


Keep your goals and ambitions to yourself - don't share them with anyone, not yet. Write them down and refer to them. Look back at what you wrote in a month, then in a few months. Work on them constantly, and don't be afraid to revise and rewrite. Goals are always changing.

Think in possibilities. What is possible for you to achieve in the next six months? Go for it. Don't play it safe with what you’ll probably achieve anyway.

Push yourself to go further. The rewards are greater.

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Feel the winning feeling. Feel successful already. Try on the clothes of total accomplishment and peace of mind. Live each day as though you have already reached your goals. There are always new ones for you to continue your growth.

Don't announce your goals. This will set you up for failure. Even if you make a pact with yourself to attain a specific goal, don't chastise yourself if you don't make it. It may have been unrealistic or you may not have tried hard enough.

Do it yourself. There is nobody better to help you achieve your desires than you.

Tap into the power of the subconscious and practice being your own fantasy.

Then go ahead. Act on your convictions. Follow them through with devotions and then reap the rewards. You CAN accomplish anything you want in life.

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Wrapping it up

"A man may fail many times, but he isn't a failure until he begins to blame someone else." Knox Manning

You will notice that throughout this book I have mentioned, “don’t blame others.”

It’s true, when you decide that you want a better attitude and that you want to improve your self-esteem and have a better, more rewarding life, you have to quit blaming others.

Taking responsibility for your own actions is a strong step. Accepting what you cannot change and change what you can is another great step toward achieving what you desire.

Yes, you will have stops along the way. It is up to you to see those obstacles in a positive light and find positive ways to solve the problems that come up.

Whining, crying, complaining and blaming, do not solve problems. Taking positive action solves problems.

We all have days where we wonder, "What’s the use?" It is seeing it for what it is and realizing that you do have choices, and you can learn to make better choices, you can set goals and reach them. You can change your attitude when it is hurting you in your career, your home life and everywhere you turn. Recognize what it is. Do not dwell on the past, but rather, use your experiences both good and bad, to reach out and become a better you.

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You learn from failure; do not fear failure. Don’t be afraid to adopt new ideas, and to try new things. No one looks all that great when they first try something.

You probably learned how to swim, roller skate, ride a bicycle, wrote your first essay, or even put your foot in you mouth. I have done them all and have made a fool of myself in public, too. It takes practice to make perfect and it takes a wise person to realize that perfection is not as important as doing the best that you can do. If you don’t try new things, then you stop the growth of learning.

Without continuing to grow, we die a little inside. The mind must stay active.

You can make a pact with yourself that you will think more positively and that you will not let yourself dwell on negative things.

Did you know that it takes more muscles to frown than to smile?



Written By Dorothy Law Nolte

“If a child lives with criticism, they learn to condemn ...

If a child lives with hostility, they learn to fight ...

If a child lives with pity, they learn how to feel sorry for themselves ...

If a child lives with ridicule, they learn to be shy ...

If a child lives with jealousy, they learn what envy is ...

If a child lives with shame, they learn to feel guilty ...

If a child lives with encouragement, they learn to be confident...

If a child lives with tolerance, they learn to be patient ...

If a child lives with praise, they learn to be appreciative ...

If a child lives with acceptance, they learn to love ...

If a child lives with approval, they learn to like themselves ...

If a child lives with recognition, they learn it is good to have goals ...

If a child lives with sharing, they learn about generosity ...

If a child lives with honesty and fairness, they learn what truth and justice are ...

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about them ...

If a child lives with friendliness, they learn that the world is a nice place to live ...

If you live with serenity, your child will live with peace of mind ...

Today is the beginning of the rest of your life. Make it a rewarding life.

Teresa King

© 2003

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About the Author

Teresa King is the mother of three grown sons, and at the writing of this book has two grandchildren, one girl, one boy, three months apart in age and both just over two years old.

She is the author of several books, from marketing to historical romances and enjoys teaching and helping people to keep their minds alert and to inspire them to do the best they can in life.

She plays online bridge in her spare time and enjoys walks, nature, crossword puzzles, reading, and conversing with friends and her family and loves her computer.

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Many warm thanks to Bryan Kumar for putting in the Visualization Chapter into this book. And for “Getting into the Driver’s Seat.”

Many thanks to Tom Hua for making this book so it can reach out and help more people through his “Ebook Wholesaler club.”

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