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One of the b iggest difficulties all marriages and families struggle with is the failure of men to actually speak words that
give value, identity, purpose and encouragement to their wife and their children. Marriages languish for lack of words
like plants languish for lack of water. Relationships languish for lack of words. They just wither. Use words to b uild
I want you to open your Bible at Proverbs, Chapter 18. Man, we feel like we've been having a feast in these last few
weeks haven't we? I've been speaking on Taming the Tongue. How many found that their tongue is getting a bit
better? How many have started to pick up not only what you're saying, but what others are saying? Have you noticed
how strong the put downs are? It's unbelievable isn't it, and we need to learn how to address those things. First we
address it in our own heart, and we're coming near Chris tmas now, near the end of the year, but I wanted to start to
move from where we were talking about the negative aspects of the tongue, to actually how God has designed us to
operate, and I want to share with you something today that'll help you.
We're just going to look at a message called the Power of the Tongue. I feel I'll add to this, and do some other
sessions related to it, but I want to just give you some things that are really - I want to lift your thinking about God's
design, because if we don't see how we're designed, we will always malfunction. The same with a natural thing; if you
have some natural object, you don't know what it's made for, don't know what it's supposed to do, you'll end up using
it for the wrong thing and use up, you know, like kids pick up a remote and use it as a hammer. They just don't quite
know what it was for, until someone starts yelling [laughs] isn't that right?
Okay then, Proverbs 18:21; Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its f ruit. Death
and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit. The Bible tells us very clearly, your
tongue has power. There is a power, a spiritual force in words. The Bible tells us very clearly, words that we speak
are containers. They contain something. They contain what is in your heart, and we saw that there are all kinds of
words people can speak. We looked at some of the negative kinds of words, and we also looked at what they
release, and we're going to look today, I want to go and look really at the more positive aspect of this. But we've
looked at how people release lying words, and it releases the spirit of murder and death against people. We looked at
gossiping words. Gossiping words release the spirit of death ag ainst people, they hurt people.
We looked at flattery, which is empty words. They're words with an agenda, and they also hurt people, because
ultimately the agenda comes out. We looked at empty words, words spoken which are insincere, have no meaning
and they tend to disappoint people. Again, they minister death to people. We saw about put down words, words that
you hear the words, but the spirit within it, and what it contains, you go away and you feel downed afterwards, and
you feel put down. You feel less. You feel actually dishonoured and devalued, and we saw these kinds of words and
what they did. We saw the last one we looked at was angry words, and we saw how angry words release a spirit of
murder, and people don't just hear the words, they feel the s pirit that the words contain. It's a mixture of the human
spirit. It's what's in your heart, and it also activates and releases demonic spirits, so many people I know and have
prayed for, ministered to, have been deeply wounded for almost the whole length of their life, because of some angry
outburst within the family by a father or mother, or by someone near to them when they were very young. They've
carried the impact of that right through their life.
So we saw these were some of the different kinds of wo rds, but now I want to look at the proper use of the tongue. I
want to look at design, and I want to show you something from the word of God about design, about things that God
designed us to do, because most of us, because we don't know what we're designed to do, don't actually function
properly. We don't realise that when people that have been made in the image of God, means we're made with God
nature. We have a spirit nature, therefore when we speak, we're able to do things with our words that nothing else in
creation can do, and it's part of God's purpose for our lives. So let's just go first of all into Genesis, Chapter 1 and I
don't want to expand this much. I want to just show you a couple of things in Genesis, about how God uses words,
how God uses words. It's quite interesting; God doesn't seem to use lots of words.
When God was speaking to Adam; Adam, where are you? Who told you you were naked? Did you eat the fruit of the
tree? It's not kind of like, lots of words is it, a real man talking that one . But men and women both carry the nature of