Parenting After Divorce - A Complete Guide HTML version

often they feel like their world is out of control, leading to an increase in
tantrums and emotional displays of frustration, anger and anxiety. Parents at
this time need to keep routines between Mom's house and Dad's house as
similar as possible, and both parents need to interact frequently with the
child. Ideally the child should communicate with both parents every day
either in person, by phone or even over webcams on the internet. The more
that young children understand that they have a Mommy and a Daddy in
their lives the more secure and loved they will feel, even at this young age.
Pictures of the child with both parents as well as a photograph album or
other reminders of the relationship between both parents and the child are
critical. It is especially important for the parent with the most parenting time,
which is often the mother, to talk about the other parent frequently,
reminding the child that both parents are working together providing
security, love and attention. Young kids may also be shy or timid the first few
times they spend time with the parent that has left the family home, so both
parents have to be encouraging and supportive of this parenting time.
In a lot of the divorce research and parenting information the six to eight
year old kids are known as the "parent pleasers". They really do want Mom
and Dad to feel good about themselves and to be emotionally happy and
content in their new lives. These kids tend to want to talk about one parent
to the other parent, and it is very critical to allow children to say positives
and to feel good about the other parent in your home. Avoid sarcasm or
questioning as this can cause the child to feel uncomfortable.
These kids also need to have their own feelings validated. Even though as
the adult you may be relieved, thankful or even optimistic about the divorce,
it is likely that the children at this age are sad and are feeling a sense of