Parenting After Divorce - A Complete Guide HTML version

The preceding chapter outlined the grief cycle that children go through in a
divorce and this chapter will identify the typical behaviors and reactions that
occur in children of different ages going through a divorce. Keep in mind that
every child is different both emotionally and developmentally and not all
children will react the same way. Children may be more emotionally or
socially mature or immature than others in their age group and the
information below is a general guideline only.
As a parent if you have any concerns about your child's behavior or
emotional health going through a divorce, be sure to consult with your
pediatrician to ensure there is not a medical issue; then ask for a referral to
a child therapist or play therapist if there are no medical issues.
Often very young children between birth and five years of age initially seem
to go through the divorce very easily and are accepting of the parenting
schedules and changes. This may be largely due to the fact that they are not
yet aware that this isn't the norm; however when they get a bit older they
may start to display the grief cycle, even though the divorce happened many
years ago.
Children at about the age of two are starting to develop a sense of trust and
predictability in their world and their environment. When changes occur,