Marriage and love HTML version

far apart as the
poles; are, in fact, antagonistic to each other. No
doubt some marriages
have been the result of love. Not, however, because love
could assert
itself only in marriage; much rather is it because few
people can
completely outgrow a convention. There are today large
numbers of men
and women to whom marriage is naught but a farce, but
who submit to it
for the sake of public opinion. At any rate, while it is
true that some
marriages are based on love, and while it is equally
true that in some
cases love continues in married life, I maintain that it
does so
regardless of marriage, and not because of it.
On the other hand, it is utterly false that love results
from marriage.
On rare occasions one does hear of a miraculous case of
a married couple
falling in love after marriage, but on close examination
it will be
found that it is a mere adjustment to the inevitable.
Certainly the
growing-used to each other is far away from the
spontaneity, the
intensity, and beauty of love, without which the
intimacy of marriage
must prove degrading to both the woman and the man.
Marriage is primarily an economic arrangement, an
insurance pact. It
differs from the ordinary life insurance agreement only
in that it is
more binding, more exacting. Its returns are
insignificantly small
compared with the investments. In taking out an
insurance policy one
pays for it in dollars and cents, always at liberty to
payments. If, however, woman's premium is a husband, she
pays for it