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The Connells wrote a letter to the social welfare. Interestingly, the mother who
adopted their baby wrote them a letter as well, almost at the same time, to ask for
Josephine Brown, Connell‘s daughter, was already 18 at that time, and was finishing
her first year at university. Normally, the welfare services would not let them make
contact until the child was 21 years old, but because there was interest on both
sides, they allowed contact to be made.
―When I was born, I had a splint and had to be in bed for 10 weeks," Josephine
shared. ―When my parents came to adopt me, the doctors couldn‘t tell if I would
develop some kind of disability. When they told their parents they wanted to adopt
me, their parents were quite resistant."
Unlike other adopted children, Josephine had always known that she was adopted.
―It was not good or bad, just facts I knew. But as a child I always wondered who I
was. In New Zealand, there are people who came from so many backgrounds, it‘s
like people have traveled here from England, Ireland or Wales so people always
discussed if they are Irish-half or English-half and I never knew who I was."
When Josephine found out that her mother had received a letter from the social
welfare that her biological parents have six more children, questions started reeling
in her mind: who were they? What do they looked like? Do they look like me? ―It‘s
insane, when you don‘t have information, you just fill in with your imagination."
Eventually, Josephine flew up to meet the Connells after her exams that year. She
arrived in town on Connell‘s birthday.
―The week before she came, we openly told the church our story and everything
came to light. After that, many of those who had problems sharing their past brought
their secrets into the light as well," said Joy.
As Connell came clean with his family‘s past, God brought a lesson to his mind.
―This was what the Lord asked me after we told the church, ‗You know what would
happen if you had not shared with your church?‘ I said, ‗No, I haven‘t thought about
that,‘ to which God said, ‗If you had kept this in secret, it would have been a betrayal
of trust for all under your leadership once they found out the truth.‘"
Humility and Giving Honor
Over the years, the Connell family maintained contact with Josephine. She did not
grow up in a Christian family but whenever she visited them, she would go to church
While she felt moved by the presence of God at church, becoming a Christian was a
struggle with the issue of loyalty for Josephine. ―I grew up always wanting to please
my parents, and I didn‘t want the decision (to believe in God) to please other people;
I wanted it to be for myself. So it took a long time to come to that point of not
worrying about what my parents thought as well as what Mike and Joy thought."