Feminology- Woman abuse HTML version
Many abusive partners and victims have witnessed some kind
of abuse during childhood or somehow have been desensitized to
it later on in adulthood.
General characteristics of abusive persons and situations
include but are certainly not limited to the following:
-Suffers from an inferiority complex (I’m better, smarter
and more important than you; you are below me). This feeling may
be relieved by trying to appear superior to the partner in
strength (emotional and physical), independence and
-The abuser must be the center of focus. He must be the
most important person in his partner’s life (often times without
exception even regarding offspring and in-laws). Pregnancy may
bring out bitter feelings. Everything must revolve around him.
-Power famished (looks and talks down at you).
-His mood, feelings, aspirations, likes, dislikes, etc.,
are important, not yours.
-The abused partner must be dependent on him and fearful of
-The abusive partner cuts her down often mercilessly,
usually in private (because he knows that he’s doing wrong and
maybe someone will try to defend her if done in front of others,
but there are cases of this kind of abuse happening in front of
others. Each case is unique.
-He plays mind games with you. When it gets real bad it
becomes evident that the abuser is mentally unstable.
-Your opinions and aspirations are worth nothing (I don’t
want to hear it), you’re his personal property (you belong to
him), and often-times you’re a sex object (a whore in a sense).
-He does not ‘grant’ you the right to fight back or defend
-He calls you the most wicked and horrible names.
-At times he may deny that he abuses you. However, during
the make-up phase he may cry like a baby, apologize with
incredible intensity and ‘promise’ to be good to you thereafter.
-He has incredible fears; you’ll leave him, make it on your
own and find a good man (a better man than him).
-He’ll try to control your finances and who you see and
actions that will aid in your independence and self-esteem.
Depending on the case, he may absolutely forbid you to go to
school or get a job.