in people’s long distance relationships.
R uleofthumb?Don’t distrust someone,
unless they have given you a reason to not
trust them. Have they cheated on you before?
If not, then trust them. It is never okay to
accuse someone of cheating unless you
absolutely know for certain they are cheating.
So many people have come to the conclusion
their partner is cheating on them when their
partner doesn’t do everything they want
them to do. It really distracts from the real
problem, which is some other underlying relationship issue that is causing a strain on the relationship.
Okay, okay, so you still want to know that they are not cheating. So how can you figure this out the correct way? Well first of all, don’t be a snoop and hack into their email or anything else. That is an obvious no-no. People have come to us having seen emails or saw a text message on their partner’s phone that seems suspicious. That is snooping and we don’t condone it. Intruding into your partner’s privacy shows a lack of respect you have for your partner.
First of all, if you are in a committed relationship with someone, you should be able to talk about anything and everything. Nothingisofflimits.So don’t be afraid to ask tough questions. But how do you ask without sounding accusatory? I would simply ask a hypothetical question, for example, “If youevercheatedonme,wouldyoutell me?” Listen to their response. If they say yes, then I think you are okay. If they come back with a response like, “Whywouldyou askmethat?”Then they are showing a little defense. Not a good sign, but don’t accuse them yet. Just say you’re just curious. If they continue to be on the defense, and are trying to avoid talking about it, then you might ask them if they have ever cheated.