I have presented this material numerous times to
groups in several countries. The participants feedback
was consistent. A reduction of anger by approximately
50% to 70% within a couple of weeks.
That may sound unbelievable, but really it is not.
The basis of such a large reduction is that there are two
kinds of anger. Anger for and anger at something.
Anger can be either destructive or constructive,
depending on whether it is at or for something. Anger at
is destructive and serves no useful purpose. It is the
emotion we express toward drivers who cut us off, for
example. This type of anger robs you of vital energy and
can become addictive, like misery. A friend and teacher
once told me, “Some people love their suffering so much
I don’t have the heart to take it away from them.”
. Anger at is consuming. Like a wildfire with more
and more forest to decimate, it continually replenishes its
force, rarely burning itself out. If it is not dissolved, it
simmers down, laying in wait for yet another reason to
control your mind and have you blow up at a mere trifle.
Anger for, on the other hand, is a positive force
that many highly successful people use to significant
advantage, directing it rather than letting it consume
them. Anger for is the type of anger we have about
Copyright David Samuel
www.davidsamuel.net
