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TECHNIQUES
FOR PERSONAL
COACHING AND
SELF
COACHING
Dean Amory
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Title: Techniques for Personal Coaching and Self Coaching
Compiled by: Dean Amory
Dean_Amory@hotmail.com
Publisher: Edgard Adriaens, Belgium
eddyadriaens@yahoo.com
ISBN: 978-1-4716-6888-3
© Copyright 2011, Edgard Adriaens, Belgium, - All Rights
Reserved.
This book has been compiled based on the contents of
trainings, information found in other books and using the
internet. It contains a number of articles and coaching
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the original author. Whenever you cite such an article or
use a coaching model in a commercial situation, please
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The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share
your riches, but to reveal to him his own. – Benjamin Disrael
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Cover picture: Sam & Jeffrey Adriaens - Fuenzalida
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
1 INTRODUCTION...............................................................316
3 TECHNIQUES FOR COACHING ..............................317
3.1. ACTIVE LISTENING ...................................................317
3.2. ASKING QUESTIONS ..................................................330
3.3 HERON’S 6 CATEGORIES OF INTERVENTION ....360
3.4 RESPONSIVENESS .......................................................362
3.5 GIVING FEEDBACK.....................................................364
3.6 FRAMING - REFRAMING ...........................................372
3.7 REALITY CHECK .........................................................383
3.8 SCALING TECHNIQUES.............................................385
3.9 EXTERNALISING OF PROBLEMS ...........................389
3.10 CREATING RAPPORT ...............................................393
3.11 COLLABORATION BUILDING ................................402
3.12 SAYING “NO”...............................................................422
3.13 I-MESSAGES ................................................................432
3.14 ADVISING .....................................................................440
3.15 CREATIVE THINKING ..............................................449
3.16 TURNING PROBLEMS INTO POSSIBILITIES .....491
3.17 SUMMARIZE, EVALUATE AND WRAP UP ...........498
3.18 ENACTING ...................................................................509
3.19 THE MIRACLE QUESTION.......................................525
3.20 SHARING INFORMATION........................................530
3.21 SELF DISCLOSURE ....................................................533
3.22 USING INTUITION......................................................542
3.23 RECOGNISE LIFE PATTERNS.................................550
3.24 BREAKING THE DRAMA TRIANGLE....................604
3.25 VOICE DIALOGUE .....................................................611
3.26 CONFRONTATION .....................................................615
3.27 PROVOCATION...........................................................632
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3.28 MINDFULNESS ............................................................638
3.29 HOMEWORK ...............................................................647
3.30 HUMOR .........................................................................648
3.31 RESPECT.......................................................................651
3.32 AFFIRM, COMPLIMENT, CELEBRATE ................655
3.33 PAYING ATTENTION ................................................661
3.34 TRUST............................................................................664
3.35 ALLOWING TIME AND SPACE ...............................666
3.36 COPING .........................................................................678
3.37 DIAGNOSING...............................................................688
3.38 THE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT PLAN ..............697
3.39 TRACKING ...................................................................711
3.40 JOINING .......................................................................722
3.41 PARADOXICAL INTERVENTION...........................726
3.42 EMPTY CHAIR TECHNIQUE ...................................728
3.43 THE HUNGER ILLUSION..........................................730
3.44 VALIDATE, INTENSIFY, EMPHASIZE...................733
3.45 CHALLENGE EXISTING PATTERNS .....................747
3.46 SOLUTIONS AND SUCCESSES TO DATE ..............751
3.47 USING SUGGESTIVE COMMUNICATION............763
3.48 THE POWER OF “YES”..............................................784
3.49 VISUALIZATION.........................................................786
3.50 BORROWED GENIUS.................................................839
3.51 IMMEDIACY ................................................................843
3.52 CHALLENGING THE COACHEE ............................845
3.53 MODELLING................................................................850
3.54 PROBLEM ANALYSIS................................................858
3.55 POSITIVITY ................................................................864
3.56 HEAD ON COLLISION ...............................................867
3.57 TRANSFERENCE INTERPRETATION ..................870
3.58 PRIMAL THERAPY ....................................................873
3.59 FOCUSING....................................................................875
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