Parenting After Divorce - A Complete Guide
Be prepared to answer a lot of questions when kids are in this stage and do
not become frustrated if you seem to be answering the same question over
and over. If you find this is the case, try developing a way to help the child
remember, turn it into a game or post messages on a board in the house to
help keep things organized.
Most children will go through a phase where they may attempt to bargain
with Mom and Dad, or even a higher power, to attempt to bring the family
back together. They may also bargain between brothers and sisters or
between other family members to attempt a family reunification. It is
important to keep kids focused on being kids and to keep reinforcing that
they did not cause the divorce, nor can they "fix" the problem and reunite
Mom and Dad.
Depression with children is common through divorce. They may seem to lose
their sense of spontaneous joy, their ability to see the good in things, or their
love of a particular hobby, pastime or activity. Encouraging our kids to stay
involved and active and modeling being positive and future focused is the
best option. Both parents need to let kids know that things are going to be
different, but that they will still be loved, cared for and cherished, even
though Mom and Dad are living in different homes.
If you are concerned about your child's emotional or mental state, seek a
counselor or consult with your physician. Often speaking to someone outside