Parenting After Divorce - A Complete Guide
considerations for special events and even issues of daily routines and
extracurricular activities for the children.
Communication between parents may be through attorneys, therapists or
counselors, mediators or even via email if personal contact is still stressful.
In most cases parallel parenting is beneficial to the children since they have
security, routine and the understanding that Mom and Dad are working
together in their upbringing and care.
The most child friendly model of parenting through divorce is the model most
commonly known as co-parenting. In this model Mom and Dad continue to
discuss issues as they relate to the child or children, interact routinely with
regards to information specific to the kids, and often talk and/or phone each
other with questions or concerns about the kids. While parents may not
specifically spend time together with the kids, many co-parents attend
birthday parties, school events and other special activities together to allow
the child to feel very much a part of both parent's lives.
Many people feel that co-parenting is an unreasonable expectation for
divorced parents, however research clearly indicates that this is the best
possible model for your children, provided both parents can remain civil,
respectful and child centered during discussions and interactions. Co-
parenting is almost like operating a business with the other parent as a
partner with the goal of raising the happiest, healthiest kids. Co-parenting
does not mean that you have to have extended conversations about anything
other than the kids’ health, happiness and general well being and