On the Outside Looking In: Hope for Separated Fathers Who Want to be Good Fathers
Like Father … Like Son – and Daughter Too
(The Impact of Father-Absent Families on Children)
Fathers, do not irritate and provoke your children to anger [do not exasperate them to
resentment], but rear them [tenderly] in the training and discipline and the counsel and
admonition of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4 AMP)
Fathers have a great opportunity to help shape the future through their relationship with their
children. Research shows that children are much better off with both natural parents loving and
caring for them. But, when fathers do not live up to their specific responsibilities everybody can
suffer and the potential negative effect on children can be enormous.
Some of the trauma in separated-families can be eliminated with an extra effort by
It is my hope that an increased awareness of the potential negative sides of father-absence
can move some men to take greater responsibility in their children’s lives.
In this chapter I want to present some facts which are generally known by those who
research and write about divorce, separated- families and single-mother (or father-absent)
Growth and Development - A Word to Separated-Fathers
As you read the information in this chapter about what can happen in father-absent families,
each separated-father can do some personal soul-searching. If you are a good father then great.
You know the value of being a good father because you see the result in your children. If you
are not a good father or you see areas where you can improve then I encourage you to consider
how you can be more effective in taking care of your children.
If we do not seriously consider our role as fathers, we can expect many more problems for
our children. The Bible teaches us to Train [Or Start] a child in the way he should go, and
when he is old he will not turn from it (Proverbs 22:6 NIV).
This is our primary responsibility to train our children and get them started in the right