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From Zero to Infinity in an Instant: Reflections on A Course in Miracles


We “love” another in order to get something ourselves. That, in fact, is what
passes for love in the dream world. There can be no greater mistake than that,
for love is incapable of asking for anything.
--from the preface to A Course in Miracles
“Love is incapable of asking for anything.” In other words, love is not needy. Love does
not need anything. Love is self-sufficient and only seeks to give of itself and thus
increase joy. Love joins with love for the joy of joining. Love sees that giving is the same
as receiving since we are all connected.
However, we have made a big mistake about what love is. We feel unworthy, so we
seek external validation or affirmation. We call this external affirmation “love.” We do
whatever we can to fill the emptiness in our hearts. We look for others who can
convince us that we are worthy or good or valuable. We look for others who will do or
say things that make us temporarily feel better, and we become “addicted” to these
people. After a while, though, we begin to doubt that these other people are sincere
about what they tell us. We again doubt that we are worthy or valuable or good. And
sometimes these other people get tired of doing and saying things that fill our
emptiness, and we leave them to look for others who can fill our “needs.”
Sometimes, two people can attempt to fill the emptiness of each other for a long period
of time. However, such a relationship is built upon the maintenance of illusions,
bargaining, and self-sacrifice. They maintain the illusion that they have needs, they
bargain by trading actions or words, and they believe that they must partially sacrifice
their own self-interest in order to get what they want. But this is not love.
Love does not know of pain, sacrifice, or bargaining. These things come from fear, not
love. In this world, we are like bottomless pits of needs. Like babies, we think we have a
continual need for physical, mental, and emotional support. In contrast with these pits of
needs, our true nature is to be mountains of trust, confidence, and love. In reality, we
have no needs. In order to return to our true nature, our thinking must be reversed, or
turned inside-out. This thought reversal will come about when enough people give up
judgment and try to overlook (or forgive) mistakes.
If love is not needy, what is love like? Real love must be experienced to be known, but a
general outline of what love is, and is not, is given in Lesson 127 of the Workbook for
Students in A Course in Miracles.
Poems
An Eternal Spring
This poem is about the darkness of unforgiveness and the eternal spring brought
about by forgiveness.
 
 
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