This means giving our kids 100% acceptance and forgiveness, no matter what
they’ve done (just as God does for us). Check out how God deals with us: when we
screw up, does God dramatically appear in a burning bush and give us hell? No, God
doesn’t do that; God leaves us alone to stew in our own juice and to figure things out for
ourselves. To treat our kids like God treats us means not making them feel worse about
themselves, but rather better, as if they were still worthwhile beings, worthy of salvation
and redemption, no matter how sinful they may have been. It means not being angry with
them but rather tender with them; feeling what they feel instead of trying to make them
feel our feelings (agree with us).
Most parents have truly loving impulses; but society sends parents the wrong
messages – it makes them feel guilty about being “weak” or “soft-hearted” or “spoiling”
kids. Parents just have to know that feeling with their kids – withholding all negative
judgment, criticism, and blame, is okay; that it’s fine to be completely tender and
sympathetic all the time; that it’s not a sign of weakness to understand things from the
kids’ viewpoint.
When you get annoyed with your kids, think of this: if they were to die in the next
moment, would you still give a damn about whatever you are angry at them about? Is
that what you would want your last message to them to be – annoyance over some stupid
triviality?
The next time you jump on your kids for something, think about how you would
feel if they were to die in your arms in the next moment; and ask yourself if whatever
you’re on their case about is worth trashing the short time you will spend on this earth
together.
Are You Two Compatible?
Comparing the Ascendants, Suns, and Moons in Two People’s Horoscopes
People have been having problems with their relationships for as long as they have
been having relationships. Even Adam and Eve, under the most ideal conditions
imaginable, failed to make a decent go of it. It's not surprising, therefore, that synastry-
the astrology of relationships – has always been one of the most popular branches of the
stellar art. In the second century A.D. Claudius Ptolemy wrote: “Concord between two
persons is produced by an harmonious figuration of the stars, indicative of the matter
whereby good will is constituted, in the nativity of either person. Love and hatred are
discernible, as well from the concord and discord of the luminaries, as from the
ascendants of both nativities.”1
Ptolemy's method was to compare the suns, moons, and ascendants in the two
horoscopes because these are the points where the natives are in closest touch with the
world outside of themselves. All of the other planets, cusps, parts, etc., are derivative
from these three, both in terms of their mathematical motion, and in the psychological
