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Blame Game


McDonalds, for not warning them of the dangers of their food ca using them to put on
weight, and creating physically attractive and psychologically addictive food; so their
condition of being overweight was McDonald's fault. Fortunately the judge saw through
that, and threw the case out, but what on earth is going thro ugh people's minds, that
they think you can blame someone else for their weight? It's about a way of thinking, a
blaming way of thinking.
As we open this up over a couple of weeks, you're going to start to find it everywhere. It
comes up in such subtle wa ys but the core of it is something like this; instead of taking
ownership of the problem, and doing something about it; people blame someone else,
or something else, see? The reason I'm not married, is there's not enough Christian
men in the church. Oh, what did they just blame? Just blamed the church. Oh too bad,
you'll stay single the rest of your life then, because you've assigned responsibility
outside yourself. You've put the blame for your single condition outside yourself,
somewhere else. Whoa, that was a bit close. I shouldn't have started that deep so quick
should I aye? [Laughter] That's a bit nasty wasn't it aye? [Laughs] Oh well. Got really
difficult times financially you know, the nation's going through a bad time. Blame! Is God
my source or not? Where am I putting the blame? Where I put the blame, is where I put
the responsibility; and when I put the responsibility out there, I'm left unable to do
anything except be powerless, resentful and talk negatively about how bad it is.
So if we don't relentlessly deal with the blame game, we will find: on the one hand we
think we're trying to move in faith; on the other hand we're actually continuing old
patterns of unbelief and irresponsibility. It's everywhere. It is everywhere. So normally
people blame - so we ask people: well what's your problem? They tell you where the
problems are. Well how come they're problems? Oh well it was my father, it was my
mother, she abandoned us. Yeah well heaps of mothers have done that, but it doesn't
mean to say you end up with a mess. You've got to make a choice how you respond to
that bad deal. You have to learn to play the cards you're dealt, not wish you got a
different hand. God knows how we're going to come into this world, and knows what
we're going to experience, and He's promised to help us, if we will stop blaming, and
step up, and begin to think creatively what to do. If we're going to be faith people, we
have to think creatively about the problems of life; and I want to get us out of blaming,
and into some other kind of thing.
So people have got all kinds of reasons why they're like they are: well it was my
teachers, you don't understand, that first year at school - oh well I was at high school ...
terrible! Listen, I am hearing blame. You're putting the problem on someone else.
Maybe they did contribute to it, maybe they did some very bad things; but at the end, if
you don't stop blaming, you remain powerless and helpless, and you remain a victim of
what happened. We have to make decisions, what we'll do about the hand we've been
dealt by life. Here's another one: people blame the government, or they blame the
church; you don't understand, that last church I was in - well the pastor or the leader or
the... I'm hearing blame, because you're ascribing the reason you are like you are, to
someone else or something else. You have to recognise the reason you are the way
you are, is because of the choices you've made; and if you made bad ones, you can
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