Authority in the Family
Now Father, in Jesus' name, we break the power of abusive words. We break the power of critical words, that found
fault. We break the power of violence and hatred. We break the power of abandonment. We break the hold of those
things that have locked up the hearts of these men and women. Father, we release Your love. We release Your
anointing. Father, I pray Your spirit would touch the family, e very man, every woman a nd stand up in a new role.
HEADSHIP AND RESPONSIBILIT Y
INT RODUCT ION
(a) God is a God of Order
Ro. 13:1-2. Let every soul be subject to the higher powers and for there is no power but of God. T he powers that be are ordered by God .
· God has established an order in the spirit world and an order in the natural world.
· Authority originates from God. He is the source of it.
· Power = exousia = legal or lawful or delegated right to act.
· Higher = one positioned above another or at a higher level.
· T here are four distinct authority structures God has ordered – each has distinct responsibilities.
i) Government (1Pet.2:13-14)
ii) Church (Heb. 13:7)
iii) Family (1 Cor. 11:3)
iv) Individual (Ro. 14:12)
(b) Response to God’s Order
Ro. 13: 1-2. Be subject … or “Resist” (Only two responses possible).
· Resist = anti tasso = to arrange or position oneself ag ainst.
= military term to arrange ones el f in battle against, opposition to.
· People resist what God has ordered because o f ignoran ce – not knowing what is expected or required o f them, because o f neglect; becaus e in their
thinking are opposed to what God has ordered.
· Subject = hupotasso = to subordinate, arrange onesel f in order ben eath. T his does not mean one person inferior; or imply op pression or control. T his
refers to the order in a relationship in which one person looks to the other for direction. T he purpose of this order is to allow those in relationship to
fun ction together in unity.
· E.G. Jn 5:30 I seek not my own will but the will of the Father who sent me.
Jn 17:22 T hat they may be one even as we are one.
· Subject means much more than just obedience.
· E.G. Honour, respect ful, responsive to direction; co-operating with anothers purposes.
· All Christians are call to “be subject” to authorities.
2 HEADSHIP IS MALE
1 Cor. 11:3 Headship: God Christ Man Woman.
· T he headship of man is a role in relationship to his wife.
· T his headship is part of a series o f headship relationships involving both headship and submission.
· T hese roles do not imply inferiority but are part of divine order.
· Reason given: Creation design.
· Man was creat ed fi rst and had already begun his God given work.
· Man stood alone – God’s representative ruler in the earth, designed to lead.
· Woman was made out of man designed to be his helper and companion.
· Woman was the glory of man as man was the glory of God.
· Examples of God – Christ
· God’s purpose and desire = to exalt Christ to share rulership with him over all He created. Father gave direction – Son subject o.
· Father loved and gave leadership – Son subject to this!
3. HEADSHIP IS LEADERSHIP
(a) Recognise God’s Design
1 Cor. 11:3 Headship Responsibility /People want rights and privilege – God’s design = responsibility.
· No man can be an effective leader in marriag e until settles the issues in his heart.
(i) God has appointed him as leader/spiritual head. (1 Cor. 11:3)
(ii) God has creatively designed him for this task – not his wife (Gen. 2:18; 1 Pet. 3:7).
(iii) God’s power is released only as he assumes a sense of responsibility for leadership. (Eph. 3:7) Headship is not just a role it is a position of
responsibility and authority.
(b) God holds Men to Account
· Rom. 5:12 By one man sin entered the world.
· Eve ate the fruit but God held man responsible for allowing sin to enter.
· Adam failed to ful fil his leadership responsibility – remained silent Gen 3:6.
· Male/Female roles are emphasised in the Bible because: